ill check it out and edit the post with results, thanks for all the help!
ok so i poppped off the head unit finally, and well everything was plugged in, then in a stroke of genius i removed the cd player (since it has the changer button on it in the first place ), and much to my roaring ah hah the blue plug was unplugged.
connected it and instantly i was listening to music off of the ipod (i had already sorted out my playlists)
good stuff, now i can hide the cable thanks for the assistance!
why in the world would they not plug in that cable? its kinda short but still.
Modified by Tetzuoe at 1:29 AM 3-13-2007