I'm not a real estate agent, but I have to wear a biz dev hat occasionally. From the sellers end, it's the same in any industry -- i'll call it "stop being a c0ck tease buyer".
It's phenomenally frustrating when someone is nice and friendly to you, but is really feigning interest because they don't want to be rude. I've had this happen so many times. It's even more frustrating that they feign so much interest that you push them higher on your biz dev list b/c they've given you all the signals. You showed up at an open house, or you called them and said "i'm interested in this house". Then they call you and you're nice and friendly and then you don't want them to follow-up with you again?!?!Originally Posted by jnm2.0t
Just "be rude" and say "listen, we're only interested that one house. We have a lot of thinking to do. We'll follow-up with you when we're ready, but please don't call me before you hear from me".
Basically, you're being the girl at the bar who keeps letting the guy buy her drinks, but then doesn't even give out her a phone number. Or worse, lets you come back to her room but "only wants to cuddle". She didn't want to be rude, but you would have much preferred she told you to eff off at 9pm so you could have moved on - or at least said, "I enjoy talking to you and appreciate the beer, but if you're expecting me to go home with you tonight -- well, there's 0 chance of that happening".
Why not just say something like, "We're not interested in sharing the exact figure, but we're pre-approved for at least the cost of this house. The financials are not an issue if decide to move forward, b/c this is well within our pre-approval range".
The "way overpriced" selling down the river thing is unacceptable though. It's one thing to say "Is price an issue? Would you like me to follow-up with you if it turns out they'd be interested in lowering the price" is a nice way to say the exact same thing and remain professional.
But what I don't get is (maybe I missed it in the thread), why don't you just higher a seller's agent? They do all that leg work for you, it doesn't cost you anymore (they split the commission; if not there, the buyer's agent gets it all, right?), and you don't have to put up with all the seedy people you don't want to deal with.