The official homo thread

[Nicefeet]

I got cruised once by a good looking gay dude, does that mean I’m hot, or do gay men go slumming?

[olltray]

When I went to bear week why did I get so many free drinks?

[Tornado2dr]

I got cruised once by a good looking gay dude, does that mean I’m hot, or do gay men go slumming?

I've never been approched by a gay guy for this purpose (that I know of).

Am I ugly, or am I just obviously straight?

[ClockworkChad]

I've met several guys who came out and were normal, within a few months, glitter-wearing, lisp talking Gaga listening homes. It's tragic.

thats 99% of my experience with people coming out. one day fine, next day a queen.

[sirswank]

ok, here are legitimate questions that have been recent local news hot topics. granted you prolly can't speak for your entire population, but here we go.

why, in the push for acceptance, do most of the messages come across as "you must LOVE us or DIE!"? i mean, the whole "we're here, we're queer, get used to it" thing just seems a bit militant. it would seem much easier to integrate into general population if your lifestyle weren't being crammed down our throats. at least thats what it appears. maybe you are as embarrassed by those members as we are of the ones who forcefully try to prevent you from being who you are.


followup question. does the word "marriage" have any special meaning beyond religious connotations, or would identical legal rights be sufficient? we're not religious, and my wife and i had a J of P marry us. if we were only "civily unionized" or "legally paired" i'm sure we'd just call it married in casual conversation and go on our merry way. so why the push to call it marriage? is it to have a legal way force the church to perform a ceremony, or is a word really that important?

[silverspeedbuggy]

This has boggled me forever. In a hetero relationship there is a husband/wife but in a gay relationship since both sexes are the same how are the roles determined? Is there a "feminine" role? a dominant or "masculane" role? I use role for lack of a better term...no disrespect intended.

Not to take this away from MRVWO1, but can I throw in my $.02 on this one?

I appreciate your respect with this, and that you've emphasized roles, but be very careful if you ever ask this to a gay you barely know. I've been asked "Who's the man and who's the woman?" The question gets me somewhat worked up when I can't tell if they are asking about household-ish relationships or about....bedroom relationships. I don't ask them the first time I meet them who does what in their bedroom, so don't ask me, ok? Thanks.

Now, back to your question. Did your parents abide by strict society roles? Did your mom ever, say, mow the lawn? Or did your dad ever cook dinner? Did mom pay the bills? Did dad do laundry? These lines are blurred in straight society now. I think in modern hetero relationships the woman wants to be viewed as equal to the men and the man still wants to be viewed as the dominant provider. Gay relationships, in my opinion, are two equals. I know my partner and I don't view each other as the 'man' or the 'woman' in the relationship. We view each other as equals. I fully admit I have a hard time with this question, because we don't feel the need to slot into a specific 'role.'

Some weeks I do the laundry, some weeks he does. Some weeks I take out the garbage, sometimes he does. I can tell you he ALWAYS pays the bills and I ALWAYS mow the lawn/yardwork. I take care of our cars, he handles our business stuff.

My point is, we don't view ourselves as in 'female' or 'male' roles. You don't need to either.

[VikingVR6GTI]

I just want to say this thread rules! I am loving it. (no homo) Very interesting questions and answers. I do have to ask though, don't any of you guys have real life gay friends you can ask these questions???

[WeeTony]

when you take a dump, do you think...

That's how much **** I could take?

How accurate is this method of measuring **** taking ability?

[95GTIVR6Speed]

[Der Schaltwerks]

when you take a dump, do you think...

That's how much **** I could take?

How accurate is this method of measuring **** taking ability?

When I take an extra wide dump and it hurts my bum, I look at the turd and say to myself "there's no way I could accommodate a big penis".

[Der Schaltwerks]

I just want to say this thread rules! I am loving it. (no homo) Very interesting questions and answers. I do have to ask though, don't any of you guys have real life gay friends you can ask these questions???

And risk being seen in public with a homo? Are you fuking nuts ?

I used to have gay acquaintances who have since disappeared and one friend who is gay, but he doesn't like to talk about his gayness with me.

[VikingVR6GTI]

And risk being seen in public with a homo? Are you fuking nuts ?

I used to have gay acquaintances who have since disappeared and one friend who is gay, but he doesn't like to talk about his gayness with me.

Well you're missing out. What was said earlier about being a straight dude at a gay bar is spot on. It's almost too easy to find a woman when you're at a gay bar with your gay friend.

[CosmicTDI]

Well you're missing out. What was said earlier about being a straight dude at a gay bar is spot on. It's almost too easy to find a woman when you're at a gay bar with your gay friend.

This is true. I had a lot of straight friends that would go out with me to pick up women, usually quite successful, especially at the large clubs in NYC on Saturday nights.

I have a friend currently in the army that goes to a local gay bar b/c they offer military guys really cheap drinks. He's picked up a lot of women when he goes. I'm surprised that him and a lot of his fellow soldiers go there all of the time and are fine with it.

[CosmicTDI]

when you take a dump, do you think...

That's how much **** I could take?

How accurate is this method of measuring **** taking ability?

It's not.

[ATL_Av8r]

Why are some so flamboyant? Is there hatred among the flamboyant factions for the ones who are like Will from Will and Grace? And why are some lesbians outright scary-looking? Can't they put an article in the newsletter that it's okay to look like a woman AND still be a lesbian? One got offended when I called her "sir" but I honestly couldn't tell at the time that it was a penisless human

[Fritz27]

How often do you bang "straight" dudes that think it's not gay if you're the pitcher?

[CosmicTDI]

I'd say it's more okay to a straight dude if he's the top (pitcher). I don't really go there these days, but I certainly did in college (hello, frat bros) and when I lived in NYC. Something about NYC made straight guys more open to doing things with other guys than any place I've ever lived. I certainly had my fair share of fun.

[Der Schaltwerks]

It's not.

So does this mean one can take a bigger penis than poo or vice versa?

[CosmicTDI]

So does this mean one can take a bigger penis than poo or vice versa?

Wow, an obvious presumption.

Depends on the guy. Not all gay guys take it in the ass.

[CosmicTDI]

Another point. The majority of straight guys I've been with were only interested in oral sex. No anal allowed, which was fine by me.

[Der Schaltwerks]

Not all gay guys take it in the ass.

That's appalling. I'll stick with women then. They all take it in at least one of their orifices.

[Turbio!]

Why do the saddest, most pathetic women cling on to you guys? I don't get it.

Inquiring minds want to know. Every gay dude I've ever known has to carry pepper spray to repel the *** hags. They ****in' hate that ****.

[Turbio!]

Another point. The majority of straight guys I've been with were only interested in oral sex. No anal allowed, which was fine by me.

I think a lot of straight guys are completely fascinated by the schwanz. I don't get it myself - dong shots in porn bore the crap out of me - but how else do you explain the lovingly shot, close up BJ scenes in like every straight porn ever? I think they're still straight, but....

[CosmicTDI]

Inquiring minds want to know. Every gay dude I've ever known has to carry pepper spray to repel the *** hags. They ****in' hate that ****.

I had one "*** haggish" heavyset friend, but she was a blast to be around. When she went to college, she discovered black guys like big girls and her *** hag days were over.

[Turbio!]

My point is, we don't view ourselves as in 'female' or 'male' roles. You don't need to either.

As the one who takes care of the cooking and interior decorating in my relationship, I support this.

[22AudiQ]

I've noticed this a few times: why are gay men so aggressive? I've hung out in a mixed group and was surprised how aggressive the guy dudes were towards me, even after telling them I have a serious girlfriend.


Also, and no offense intended, how much fear is there of STDs or HIV in the gay community?

[Spinnaker]

Inquiring minds want to know. Every gay dude I've ever known has to carry pepper spray to repel the *** hags. They ****in' hate that ****.

I asked a gay friend about this once. The more sensitive answer was 'they seek acceptance from gay guys because straight men who have no interest in sleeping with them dump on them'

Real Question:

Have you ever gotten into a spat with a lover that turned into a fist fight?

[CosmicTDI]

I've noticed this a few times: why are gay men so aggressive? I've hung out in a mixed group and was surprised how aggressive the guy dudes were towards me, even after telling them I have a serious girlfriend.


Also, and no offense intended, how much fear is there of STDs or HIV in the gay community?

1. Not all gay guys are aggressive. Maybe you attract that type of gay guy.
2. Nothing close to what it was (for HIV at least) than it was when I first went to college. People just need to be educated about the risks and follow suit. I don't know that it is (or should be) any different than if you're straight. STDs and HIV don't discriminate based on sexuality.

[Surf Green]

but how else do you explain the lovingly shot, close up BJ scenes in like every straight porn ever?

Cause they're imagining the dick in that girl's mouth is theirs, likely because 1) they don't have a girl to do it, 2) their girl won't do it, or 3) their girl is really bad at doing it.

[CosmicTDI]

1) they don't have a girl to do it, 2) their girl won't do it, or 3) their girl is really bad at doing it.

Spot on. And I'll add, some guys feel it's such a hassle to get a girl to do it when a lot of gay guys will do it whenever they want.

[winstonsmith84]

I once had a guy ask to try on my shoes in the college library. Was I being propositioned for mud booting?

[2.0T_Convert]

Inquiring minds want to know. Every gay dude I've ever known has to carry pepper spray to repel the *** hags. They ****in' hate that ****.

There are two kinds of women for g*ys.

Hags - ugly, fat, or otherwise unattractive women who spend an entire life cycle revolving around gay men.

Fruit flys- attractive women who enjoy the company of gay men due to emotional support, club buddy, etc...

[silverspeedbuggy]

Why are some so flamboyant? Is there hatred among the flamboyant factions for the ones who are like Will from Will and Grace? And why are some lesbians outright scary-looking? Can't they put an article in the newsletter that it's okay to look like a woman AND still be a lesbian? One got offended when I called her "sir" but I honestly couldn't tell at the time that it was a penisless human

I'll try to tackle this one.

They're flamboyant because that's their personality type and they are comfortable with themselves. Yeah, they might be more 'femme' than others, but this isn't limited to gays. What about white guys that identify more with another race? What about rich suburanites who dress in 'thug' clothing?

A bigger question is, in my opinion, did you laugh at Jack (I think you mean Jack on Will and Grace, he was the flamboyant one)? While I may have some issues with my more flamboyant brothers, I still love having them around. In small amounts that is. I mean, have you ever witnessed an argument between a queen and just about anyone else? Those boys are VICIOUS! And fricking hilarious! While I'm not implying they should be laughed at, or just around for comedic effect, they add a certain......something...to our lives.

I will say that I don't claim to be the butchest guy out there, but neither am I flamboyant. But I do look up to the flamboyant gays in a way. Their are times, locations, that I butch it up a bit, but these guys just let their flag fly. There's something to be said for their courage.

[Basscase]

People just need to be educated about the risks and follow suit. I don't know that it is (or should be) any different than if you're straight. STDs and HIV don't discriminate based on sexuality.

This is what I've NEVER understood...why is it said to be so prevalent in the gay community, more so than the straight community? I remember trying to figure it out when I was pretty young...like 13 or 14....is it because it's a smaller "pond" so to speak? So one or two bad fish infect the more of the pond?

[abawp]

2. Nothing close to what it was (for HIV at least) than it was when I first went to college. People just need to be educated about the risks and follow suit. I don't know that it is (or should be) any different than if you're straight. STDs and HIV don't discriminate based on sexuality.

Perhaps, but doesn't the gay community tend to follow sexual practices that encourages the transfer of STDs? I can't imagine condom usage being prevalent among homosexuals since there's no risk of pregnancy.