The Official Singles Thread

[abawp]

it's pretty easy to meet people if you bust out of your shell a little.

This is true, however the definition of insanity is attempting the same things over and over again while expecting different results. Point is there is only so much breaking out that one can do before it reaches the point of being a wasted effort.

[Surf Green]

Not to toot my own horn, but I've been told by many (both sexes, non-relatives) that I'm a great person to hang out with and on a few cases, received the "compliment" of, "if I weren't seeing anyone I'd totally date you." And yet...

Yeah... me too. And it's bulls**t. Chances are, even if they were single, they wouldn't have dated me.

Stop looking.
Start doing the things you like.

That leaves you with 2 outcomes.
Worst Case: You do things you like.
Best Case: You do things you like, and meet someone who likes doing those same things.

[ABAcabby]

This is true, however the definition of insanity is attempting the same things over and over again while expecting different results. Point is there is only so much breaking out that one can do before it reaches the point of being a wasted effort.

Perseverance. not insanity. Learn from your mistakes.

[WOLFHEART0666]

Yeah... me too. And it's bulls**t. Chances are, even if they were single, they wouldn't have dated me.

Stop looking.
Start doing the things you like.

That leaves you with 2 outcomes.
Worst Case: You do things you like.
Best Case: You do things you like, and meet someone who likes doing those same things.

this is very true. when you stop looking is when they start coming after you. every time i go out just wanting to have a good time BAM theres a girl.

[EUROBORA8V]

Well i know there is a Who is Who thread but let all the single people post pictures of themselves and let the OT judge.

Rule - No mirror pictures

[abawp]

Well i know there is a Who is Who thread but let all the single people post pictures of themselves and let the OT judge.

Rule - No mirror pictures

All of the photos of me on the internet have me "lost in the background" more or less. I'm sure I have a couple of just me at home I'll post up later.

Perseverance. not insanity. Learn from your mistakes.

It is difficult to learn from your mistakes when you don't think you've made any and you don't know the signs for certain social cues. Yes I'm socially inept...

[EUROBORA8V]

Here is one my ex took of me in Moscow


фотография by Maxi_Photo, on Flickr

[Time for a GTI]

Here is one my ex took of me in Moscow

Dude, you look like a serial killer.

No, really.

[EUROBORA8V]

Dude, you look like a serial killer.

No, really.

KGB trained

[Inkarnata]

you do look like you should be holding a handgun in your right hand.

[abawp]

Oh hey I found one. I'm obviously the one on the (picture's) left and to answer the next question, no I did not

[Twistedsix]

Yeah, so basicly I know exactly the boat you are coming from.

I basically got to the point where I said F*ck it, and just started focusing on all the other crap going on in my life, school, work, work, if I had free time I was at the shooting ranges with my buddies and so forth. I am not much of a nightlife person, I dont mind grabbing drinks at bars with my buddies but im not going clubbing and im not looking to "meet" someone at a bar.

That all being said tho me and this girl I use to work with basically fell for each other hard... not sure how it happened either, I wasnt looking to date her tho shes cute as hell and she wasnt looking for a boyfriend at the time either... but yeah... **** happens when your not looking for it


I say do what the guys said already.

Go out, have fun and do things you like... You will be having fun and being worry free and thats what most girls like

[PolskiHetzen]

I have to say; this kind of works.

i wish

[PolskiHetzen]

Yeah, so basicly I know exactly the boat you are coming from.

I basically got to the point where I said F*ck it, and just started focusing on all the other crap going on in my life, school, work, work, if I had free time I was at the shooting ranges with my buddies and so forth. I am not much of a nightlife person, I dont mind grabbing drinks at bars with my buddies but im not going clubbing and im not looking to "meet" someone at a bar.

That all being said tho me and this girl I use to work with basically fell for each other hard... not sure how it happened either, I wasnt looking to date her tho shes cute as hell and she wasnt looking for a boyfriend at the time either... but yeah... **** happens when your not looking for it


I say do what the guys said already.

Go out, have fun and do things you like... You will be having fun and being worry free and thats what most girls like

While I do agree that you have to be yourself, and that doing things you love is the right way to go, you still have to put yourself out there. I don't want to hate on you, but you've only met one girl in that entire time and that it didn't work out. I'm guessing not many girls go to the shooting range. You really do have to be social, go out to bars, clubs or parties to meet people.

And I'm there with you. I like cars, accounting and the gym. Not much going on there in terms of females. I've had to put myself out of my comfort zone to meet new people.

[EUROBORA8V]

While I do agree that you have to be yourself, and that doing things you love is the right way to go, you still have to put yourself out there. I don't want to hate on you, but you've only met one girl in that entire time and that it didn't work out. I'm guessing not many girls go to the shooting range. You really do have to be social, go out to bars, clubs or parties to meet people.

And I'm there with you. I like cars, accounting and the gym. Not much going on there in terms of females. I've had to put myself out of my comfort zone to meet new people.

True.


I've met a lot on the internet to be honest.

[skaterhernandez4]

I wasn't trying to be a wise-ass, I just know that when you're looking...that desire is communicated through everything you do. Everyone can tell and to some that comes off as desperate.

Being happy with your life, your self, how you do things, oddly enough attracts people to you. I've noticed that personally...I'm attracted to women that don't need a man in their life. I like that strength. And I've begun to develop that myself.

I don't need a woman to make me happy, but I'll always want someone to enjoy my own personal happiness with.

Very rarely do good people end up alone.

Good stuff

To reply to the "how to meet girls" conversation, it helps to "do what you enjoy" but it nearly always needs to be a social, unisex activity.

You won't meet girls playing WOW in the dark.
You likely won't meet girls doing manly activities like hunting or the like.
Whoever mentioned kickball... that's a fantastic extra-curricular!
NEVER neglect a potential friend because theyre not hot... even ugly dudes may have hot female friends

[Twistedsix]

While I do agree that you have to be yourself, and that doing things you love is the right way to go, you still have to put yourself out there. I don't want to hate on you, but you've only met one girl in that entire time and that it didn't work out. I'm guessing not many girls go to the shooting range. You really do have to be social, go out to bars, clubs or parties to meet people.

And I'm there with you. I like cars, accounting and the gym. Not much going on there in terms of females. I've had to put myself out of my comfort zone to meet new people.

haha It did work out. I am still with her... And I met other girls before that, but I was just at the point where I was wanting more than just a fling... I am ridiculously picky and basically figured what I wanted in a woman was unobtainable and I would stop worrying if there was the "right" woman out there for me and just started focusing on what was in front of me...
Shortly after that me and this girl started grabbing lunch together and then out of no where it turned into something great.

Also I do other things besides going shooting too but my point is just to do what makes you happy... If thats shooting at the range with friends sure... women prospects there arnt the greatest haha or join a club, build a home for the needy lol Just pursue what will bring a smile to your face and it will happen.

[PolskiHetzen]

Just pursue what will bring a smile to your face and it will happen.

I'm still not sold on that. I do believe that you should do what brings a smile to your face, I just don't think it'll lead to meeting girls for most people. Like a few posts above, playing WoW likely won't get you laid. I bet there are a few people who have met playing, but that's the exception, not the rule.

If what you love doing is a social activity, where men and women participate, than yes. If it's an activity you do alone, or only with other men, than it won't. Unless you're looking for a guy. Than sure.

but to you. I wish there were cute single girls at my work

[Twistedsix]

I'm still not sold on that. I do believe that you should do what brings a smile to your face, I just don't think it'll lead to meeting girls for most people. Like a few posts above, playing WoW likely won't get you laid. I bet there are a few people who have met playing, but that's the exception, not the rule.

If what you love doing is a social activity, where men and women participate, than yes. If it's an activity you do alone, or only with other men, than it won't. Unless you're looking for a guy. Than sure.

but to you. I wish there were cute single girls at my work

Yeah, when I type do what makes you happy I mean out socially, not playing wow or call of duty... haha

[EUROBORA8V]

Hm, i think i shall go out this weekend and do some activities that will perhaps lead to other activities later on

[ABAcabby]

You won't meet girls playing WOW in the dark.

you'd be surprised. i know a few who it has worked for lol.

[EUROBORA8V]

You can meet females under any circumstances. But it is all about meeting the right one!

[A.Wilder]

It's dinner then sex, not the other way around silly!

[EUROBORA8V]

It's dinner then sex, not the other way around silly!

It is essentially. Ever tried the other way around?

[FBMphil]

Not to toot my own horn, but I've been told by many (both sexes, non-relatives) that I'm a great person to hang out with and on a few cases, received the "compliment" of, "if I weren't seeing anyone I'd totally date you." And yet...

I used to feel like that too before I realized that most of the girls I'm not banging that I'm close with are just too aware of the potential consequences to want to give it up

[A.Wilder]

It is essentially. Ever tried the other way around?

just think of it as dessert sausage

[abawp]

I used to feel like that too before I realized that most of the girls I'm not banging that I'm close with are just too aware of the potential consequences to want to give it up

Oh of course, it's almost as if they're using their current relationship as a leash from doing something they might regret.

Although in my case it's happened with such frequency that I'm beginning to think that they're using it as a cop-out excuse. I'm onto your scheming ways ladies

[EUROBORA8V]

just think of it as dessert sausage

[HideYoKids]

If you stop looking, you might find one.

you fvcked her, didnt you

[ABAcabby]

you fvcked her, didnt you

he WAS looking though. The chillin out and do nothing approach worked in highschool and part of college, but then i got ugly or something, so now i actually have to work for it. Also i think as girls get older, they expect to be pursued more so than when they are younger and they just wanna be all slutty.

[Matt@EuroJerks]

he WAS looking though. The chillin out and do nothing approach worked in highschool and part of college, but then i got ugly or something, so now i actually have to work for it. Also i think as girls get older, they expect to be pursued more so than when they are younger and they just wanna be all slutty.

Spot on.

[TooFitToQuit]

I stopped looking years ago. Seattle freeze FTL

Shut up! I refuse to believe it.

[Mk1Racer]

1. Go on internet
2. Get mail-order Russian bride
3. ?????
4. Profit

[slowvento95]

1) go to near by park
2) chloroform
3) chain to stove
4)????
5)no longer single!

[PSU]