Have you ever redated your Ex:

[Espresso]

Well to sum it up i'm dating a Ex of mine we're together two years. She broke it off had a rebound for five months I cut off all ties during that time no communicado. Rebound didn't work out contacted me a week after that happened. I did the Jesus thing with "forgiving" now we are together again after almost three months.

Now in your experiences can dating a Ex work or is it doomed to fail again.

Also I have been lurking the forums for years never made a account.

[Trike Kid]

It's been doomed the two times I've done it. One was my highschool sweetheart, her and I wanted vastly different things after school, broke up, kept sleeping together, got technically back together and broke up again a week later. That one was really done and we tried to make it work again.

The other, I dated this girl for a couple months, no part of it outside of the sex was particularly good for us, relationship was basically built on lots of sloppy drunken f-ing. Knew it wasn't gonna work but wasn't (And probably wouldn't if she knocked on my door right now) going to kick her fine ass outta bed so I rode that one till the wheels fell off.

Your mileage may vary greatly but generally you break up with someone for a reason. I'm watching a good buddy of mine do this right now. His situation was basically he was a drunken prick and really immature about things and she got tired of it after a while. He'd admit all the time that he wanted her back, he knew he screwed up etc... but he's not lost any of the bad habits he picked up in the few months they were apart so I think that for him as well, it's destined for failure.

[VdubChaos]

So OP's girl broke up with him to get some other dick and now that she is sick of it you will take her back with open arms?

Get used to tasting other dick in your mouth.

[Papa Dras]

Keep your kid off of your account Chaos.

[Deserion]

It entirely depends on you, and said ex.

I'm back together with an ex. We've been back together for about 5 months now. We started dating in 2006, he dumped me in 2007, went through some rough patches for a while, then got back to being best friends again for a few years, and now this. Took a lot of talking over the years, but things are working out very well, and fairly smoothly. There are a few hiccups here and there but they've all been resolved.

[dr_spock]

I re-dated my ex. We dated for several months. Broke up. Got back together after a couple of weeks. Worked things out. We've been married for 15 years now.

[Papa Dras]

Well, I don't know about the whole Jesus thing with forgiveness, you should do it for yourself, but if that's what it takes... If there is a real forgiveness and you can come to grips with it, then it might work.

I think most of the time when people get together with an ex and it works, it isn't because one of the people cheated, but rather it just not being the right time. That's what happened with me and my wife. We were together for a couple of years in our early 20s and I was in no way ready to be tied down. We stayed in touch over the years and then around 28 or so, gave it a go again and have been happily married for almost 7 years now. When you throw in a cheating angle, it adds a lot of complexity and feelings that seem to hide in the dark corners of the mind.

[BlckBadged_SwissChee]

My advice is with the wrong mindset, but I hold too many grudges and am too stubborn so the experience I have had wasn't good. My view is that if I wasn't enough the first time around and you wanted to test the waters and found out I was good enough....then FO.

There are obvious benefits to be had but that is the extent of where I would go with it.

[hi_racing]

Yup. Was engaged to my (now) wife for a few months when her ex (and first child's father) made a push to get back in her life. She wanted to give him a chance so she called off the engagement and gave the ring back. I told her I'd never ask her to marry me again but we'd stay in touch.

Her ex remained the choad he'd always been. About a month later she came over to my house, said she'd made a mistake, dropped to one knee and asked me to marry her. I forgave her, said yes and put the ring back on her finger. That was 9 years ago - we're still together and have been married 7 years. We have a 3 year old and a new baby on the way in August.

Wish you luck!

[Hurt]

Yes. Plenty of times. Plenty of different ex's. But I'm married now, and in hindsight I dated some crazies.

[scandalous_cynce]

Yeah, I've re-dated a couple of my ex's but none of them ever worked out long term.

I think what happens is you already feel comfortable with that person so you dont have to go through the awkwardness of first getting to know someone. Over the time you guys are apart, you start to forget about the bad things and reminisce about the good until you convince yourself "it can work this time." Then you get back together and you're pleasantly reminded about all the things that drove you apart in the first place.

[firefighterjunkie]

^ Agreed.


And whenever you break up and get back together in a short amount of time (days/weeks/months later versus years) when someone has slept with someone else, it seems to just cause a bunch of problems, imo.

[Spell Check Desk]

Yup.

We were together for almost seven years. He cheated and left me for the woman he cheated with.

A year later, he wants to try again. It lasted a month, I caught him (surprise!) cheating.

I later found out that the WHOLE TIME we were together, he was the town bicycle.

And people wonder why I am such a cynic with trust issues now.......

[VdubGoddess]

My first kiss is my now husband. We met when we were 10 yrs old. Dated in high school and I broke up with him because I was 15 and not ready for a boyfriend. Went to college, got married then divorced then moved across the country and found each other at the age of 27.

Got married a year and a half later and have been married for just over three years. We adopted our son last year and he is my best friend, worst enemy, and savior all in one. We are both 31 now.

I realized when we were younger it just wasn't the best time for us being so young and I think all the years between taught us both something valuable that we cherish.

[kevin FaKiN spLits]

My first kiss is my now husband. We met when we were 10 yrs old. Dated in high school and I broke up with him because I was 15 and not ready for a boyfriend. Went to college, got married then divorced then moved across the country and found each other at the age of 27.

Got married a year and a half later and have been married for just over three years. We adopted our son last year and he is my best friend, worst enemy, and savior all in one. We are both 31 now.

I realized when we were younger it just wasn't the best time for us being so young and I think all the years between taught us both something valuable that we cherish.

Kinda the same thing for me right now. I'm 23, so young yes, but I own my own business, grew up fast you can say. 4.5 years ago I met the girl I knew I wanted to marry. I had just graduated high school and I met her at a friends birthday party. She was a senior, we hit if off dated for a year. Shortly after her graduation her parents were pushing her to go to school, and telling her there are better things in life than me. Long story short I cut it off with her to give her a chance to do something with her life. I've thought about her every day for the past 3 years. I finally contacted her 4 months ago, and we are back together better than before. She still resents me for what I did, and still refuses to believe why I did it, but we're both grateful to be with one another again, and are talking about marriage, and I just bought a house for us. I can also honestly say she didnt take me back for the money, as she thinks I just work at my business, not own it. As selfish as it may seem, it shows me she actually wants me for me not my money which is great.

[VdubChaos]

. She still resents me for what I did, and still refuses to believe why I did it, but we're both grateful to be with one another again, and are talking about marriage, and I just bought a house for us..

I can also honestly say she didnt take me back for the money, as she thinks I just work at my business, not own it. As selfish as it may seem, it shows me she actually wants me for me not my money which is great.

[kevin FaKiN spLits]

The house was for me, she is just welcome to live there. I was in works on that before we started a relationship again. Lol.

[VdubChaos]

Should've kept that to yourself if you are concerned about gold diggers.

It's not rocket science spotting wealth.

But it is almost like rocket science to hide it (ok maybe not rocket science, but it is hard).

If you want to find real love, rent an apartment and drive a 5 year old Camry.....once you find someone, give it at least 2 years.

[Chilledman]

I'm of the same school of thought. He said he had reformed his ways when we tried a second time.....nope.

His excuse? He said he was making up for lost time because he was married for 24 years. What. Ever. Douchebag.

I hate to say I understand his line of thinking .....

[StayGold11]

my parents got married, had 2 kids, divorced, then got REMARRIED and had 2 more kids, lol.
(then divorced again)..