Weirdo from work knows where I live

[foxtrot762]

This dude is weird. He's always asking personal questions about me and my wife and even did the math when I told everyone we were pregnant to see which day I impregnated her. "Hey if your wife is 3 months pregnant 2 weeks ago, you must have gotten her pregnant on X night in June. Am I right?"
He's 43 years old and acts like a fuggin' 16 year old with his bitching and moaning about retarded crap no one cares about. I think he's got a social disorder.

I've been working with this guy for over a year. We live in the same general area but I've always made it a point to take the long, twisted way home whenever we happen to be in the same traffic. On numerous occasions, he has skipped the turn he usually takes to go home in order to follow me just to see what road I live on. When I notice him following me, I usually take a bunch of unnecessary turns until gets bored or takes the hint and gives up. Tonight I messed up. I was driving down my road and pull into my driveway when I see his truck approaching from the opposite direction. That ****er figured out what road I live on and was probably driving down the street to see which driveway my truck was in. He drove right past me and waved. God damn it. I'm sure he'll drive by my house at random times of night just to see if I'm there. Or he'll snoop around my yard while I'm working my shift. Or he'll ask me where I was at X o'clock on Saturday night because my truck wasn't in my driveway.

Yes it bothers me that he knows where I live. Crap. Now I have to kill him.

[Chilledman]

[sjt1985]

Dang that's messed up. Now he will know whether you are home or not, and use this information to break into your house and snoop around.






I'm not helping, am I?

[TetsuoShima]

follow him

[gizmopop]

Doesn't look like this does he?




You are going to wake up in the morning to get your cup of coffee/tea/OJ and find his ass parked on your sofa...

[winstonsmith84]

This dude is weird .

Sounds like he is just a piss poor stalker. I usually know a lot about co-workers/employees that I take an interest in. I call it intelligence gathering. I don't usually drive by and wave though. I'm not usually interested in when you mow your yard. My interests tend to be more driven by mining public information in order to know if you are bull ****ting me.

[92skirmishgti]

Restraining order!

[Tornado2dr]

Yes it bothers me that he knows where I live. Crap. Now I have to kill him.

I'm bothered FOR you.

Does this guy work for you, above you, or are you just on the same level at work?

If for you or at the same level - i'd sit that ****er down and inform him about how you like your home life and work life to remain separate, and it is hard to do that with a workmate stalking you. I wouldn't beat around the bush.

[foxtrot762]

Doesn't look like this does he?




You are going to wake up in the morning to get your cup of coffee/tea/OJ and find his ass parked on your sofa...

It's funny because he looks A LOT like that. I'm his supervisor. I don't know if I should be worried about him breaking in or not but I am worried about him stopping by while I'm not home and scaring my wife. Not that I think he would do anything to her but I just feel like he would try to talk to her and that would freak her out.

[Lazer Viking]

monkey see monkey do.. camp out in front of his house untill he comes outside and then speed away..

or just leave incredibly vague and random notes on his door, or car "do you like diet peach snapple?"

[wilm13]

Maybe he impregnated your wife and he wants to watch his kid grow up.

[JacksSenseOfRejection]

Honestly it sounds like he has Asperger Syndrome. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome

[TigerinColorado]

That is just SO damn creepy!

[Turbio!]

I'm bothered FOR you.

Does this guy work for you, above you, or are you just on the same level at work?

If for you or at the same level - i'd sit that ****er down and inform him about how you like your home life and work life to remain separate, and it is hard to do that with a workmate stalking you. I wouldn't beat around the bush.

Yes. Don't worry about being nice. I had a coworker once who did stuff like this - just incredibly inappropriate and didn't understand boundaries at all. He'd try to, for example, show up at my dinner parties and stuff. If he's this socially retarded, the snub won't work - you have to throw him against the wall a bit. Since you're his supervisor, you've got a lot of leverage; people have been fired for much less.

[volkstyle]

I'm bothered FOR you.

Does this guy work for you, above you, or are you just on the same level at work?

If for you or at the same level - i'd sit that ****er down and inform him about how you like your home life and work life to remain separate, and it is hard to do that with a workmate stalking you. I wouldn't beat around the bush.

x2. Dont sit there and be scared for your life, pull him to the side tell him how you feel and tell him to back the **** off. Also get a gun.

[foxtrot762]

x2. Dont sit there and be scared for your life, pull him to the side tell him how you feel and tell him to back the **** off. Also get a gun.

I have many and my wife knows how to use them.

He knows I dislike him. He may just be doing those things to get to me. I feel like telling him to back off will make the situation worse. Right now he's just being nosey but I wouldn't put it past him to really up the level of creepiness if I tell him to **** off. He strikes me as the type to lash out when confronted and also as one to hold a grudge. He argues with someone at work almost daily and seems to remember every argument he's ever had with anyone. Hell we get into once a week or so.
This is one of those situations where you can't take preemptive action...you just have to wait for something illegal to take place. He hasn't done anything I would really consider to be restraining order worthy.
I feel like I'm stuck.

[92skirmishgti]

You're his supervisor, can't you fire him on some BS, or everytime he does something creepy write him up on something?

[foxtrot762]

You're his supervisor, can't you fire him on some BS, or everytime he does something creepy write him up on something?

I wish it were that easy. Firing goes through 4-5 different channels and has to be approved by a group of individuals from other departments....etc.. it's quite an ordeal to fire someone. However, I drove by his house 30 minutes after he saw me and now I know exactly where he lives. I'm thinking...

[butterface]

Honestly it sounds like he has Asperger Syndrome. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome

It does sound a bit like an ASD. Since you're his supervisor, perhaps you can get a release from him to gather medical information from his insurance company.

This could very well be a harmless imposition - though it is pretty spooky I'm sure. There may be a way to resolve this without taking drastic and uncomfortable measures.

[Notch__Johnson]

Is your wife mega hot and thats why hes obsessed?

You're his supervisor, can't you fire him on some BS, or everytime he does something creepy write him up on something?

That might push him over the edge.

Its not like he'd come in cut the baby from your wifes womb and raise the kid as his own or something..............






that sh*ts crazy man, be careful

[peoples_car]

Sounds like he is just a piss poor stalker. I usually know a lot about co-workers/employees that I take an interest in. I call it intelligence gathering. I don't usually drive by and wave though. I'm not usually interested in when you mow your yard. My interests tend to be more driven by mining public information in order to know if you are bull ****ting me.

This is one of my finest skills. I learned it while growing up in the restaurant industry and it's served me very well in the corporate world.


OP, that situation is just straight up creepy. Unfortunately, he's most likely a trolling member of OT and is reading this thread as we type.

[ghostsof1985]

This dude is weird...

Dude, we live in the same state and I am suuuuuper creeped out for you and for myself living anywhere remotely near this guy.

This is like some SVU meets X-Files **** right here.

[foxtrot762]

I've decided to ignore it until it goes away...or he snaps and I have to kill him in self defense thus ending everyone's problems at work.
He's a good worker...just weird and possibly unstable. Not sure I want to find out for sure. I've taken to ignoring him when he talks now. He will ask me the stupidest crap and he'll either get a straight face and no answer or a stupid answer that makes no sense at all until he gets so frustrated that he walks away. I pissed him off so bad today from ignoring him that he left 2 hours early.

On second thought:
Gets pissed
Leaves 2 hours early
Drives by my house when he figures I'll be getting home
Makes no effort to hide the fact that he saw me (Like he wanted me to know that he knows where I live)

I'm going to die tonight
...

[ghostsof1985]

I'm going to die tonight
...

*Turns on DC Metro news channel on TV, waits for real life event.*

I'm kidding, because I want you and your family safe.











TV still on, though.

[peoples_car]

Yea, keep him busy in VA and out of the District proper...

[foxtrot762]

This is one of my finest skills. I learned it while growing up in the restaurant industry and it's served me very well in the corporate world.


OP, that situation is just straight up creepy. Unfortunately, he's most likely a trolling member of OT and is reading this thread as we type.

You know...you say that like it's a joke but I know he's seen me on the Vortex before at work and I wouldn't put it past him to create an account and look for me. I had to make my facebook page impossible to look up or else I know he'd be e-stalking me. I might just go delete my facebook right now.

[volkstyle]

LOL man this is funny. My sister had a crazy boyfriend who she kicked out the car and he walked 15 miles to our house and asked for a ride home(he lived another 5 miles up). He later came at night and left notes that said "Mom is going to wake up mad" and " **** God, **** Coca Cola". It was a weird fealing not knowing if he was going to show up and if when. Yes we called the cops.

[kkelter]

Honestly it sounds like he has Asperger Syndrome. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome

x2

This kid in school used to always hang around my car in the parking lot after school waiting for me to get out of class to talk about random ****. Found out he had aspergers from my teacher.

[ROBKIDWELL]

I almost **** my pants I laughed so f'in hard.

[Zombiee313]

1. Get a shotgun
2. Get a shovel
3. ????????
4. PROFIT!!

[BeetleGpx]

shoot his ass in the kneecaps

problem solved

[ogvr6]

well foxtrot you need to do a better job at outfoxing him,can I be frank with you,just looking a little I notice you join two sites on the same day just a short time apart,

this guy is closer to you than you think,use caution prepare for the worst and expect the best. you better start paying more attention to the details of your habits...

[Der Schaltwerks]

Put a banana in his tailpipe.

[StayGold11]

if your coworker really wanted to know where you lived, couldn't he have taken your plate# a long time ago?

[foxtrot762]

Put a banana in his tailpipe.

Is that a metaphor?