So your conversation with your military friend popped up in my news feed. As a veteran of the armed forces myself, I want to say thank you for speaking the truth even when it's unpopular. A lot (and I mean a lot) of veterans look for meaning in the horror they've been subjected to, so they rationalize how what they did and even them being over there in the first place was a "good thing."
Someone mentioned the Americans killed in the 9/11 attacks, so that justifies inflicting 3-4 9/11's on ourselves in dead soldiers in these pointless wars of aggression? Not to mention, hundreds of thousands of dead innocent Iraqi, Afghani, and Pakistani civilians (they don't count as human anyway), and millions more wounded and displaced.
Half of the people in that thread are ignorant chickenhawks who are such cowards that they would sacrifice all of their rights and millions of lives (including the troops they pretend to support) to save themselves from the statistically nonexistent threat of terrorism. Meanwhile, they drive their cars and eat fatty foods everyday, and one of the two will be the thing that actually kills them, not some scary brown person.
Living free means putting up with the fact that there is danger in the world and acknowledging that bad things and bad people exist, and living a free and peaceful life anyway. If you and your government flail around like terrified children, destroying millions of lives at home and abroad just so you can enjoy the ILLUSION of security, guess what (and forgive the cliche') the terrorist have indeed won. /rant