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Our son slept in a bassinet until he was 6 weeks old next to our bed. A few times in the first 6 weeks I would have to hold him. He is adopted and came with a few issues so having him sleep on me helped soothe him, again I did this less than a handful of times. He went into his crib at 6 weeks and started sleeping through the night at about 12 weeks old. Even now that he is almost a year I don't like to sleep with him. My husband will sometimes take a nap with him and I tell him I don't want him to get use to it.
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It is my opinion that people that think "you'll never get them out of your bed" are weak willed. Newborns need human touch; their skin is their single largest sensory organ at that age.
And? There are a lot of things practiced in the world that has no bearing on anything, so I don't get the point.
In the end, I couldn't care less what you do in your home and how you choose to raise your child. I think we have long ago shown that there are many schools of thought to everything. We do what we think is right and you do what you think is right.
The fact remains that I think it is very odd to have a child that is nearly preschool age still sleeping with you. Then again, we know freaky parents that still think you should breast feed a 2 year old.
Last edited by Papa Dras; 02-07-2012 at 12:53 PM.
And yet you keep pushing your opinion as a "fact" that it is odd for a preschool kid to sleep with parents. Pretty narrow view there I say.
Do you live in a box? My opinion is a widely believed one, I just happen to express it well, so I choose to. Also, there has never been any attempt to state this as "fact", but you are obviously hurt over my stance so you decided to try to make it appear that way for a better argument.
Go ahead and sleep with your preschool aged kids, it doesn't matter...for now.
Anyways this is a stalemate and no point in me commenting any more - especially if somebody has a preset view.
If you look at the poll results, Dras' opinion is widely viewed and practiced. I'm sure your kids will be just fine. As will his.
Serious question, Lonewolf (or any co-sleepers)- When do you plan on ending that arrangement? At what point do you say, "okay... this kid needs to sleep in their own room." Kids are mean, man. I'd imagine if one of their classmates finds out that they still sleep with mom and dad, they will be teased until high school graduation.
That said, I don't have my kids sleep in our room. I was just stating a worldly state of things and not just US centric when I say that in other countries (e.g. Asia, that has way more population than US and also kids sleeping in parent's room a possible result of that) it is not necessarily the same.
We put our little one in the crib when it's official sleep time. Do we have him in our bed at times? Sure. During the day, he'll sleep in our arms or on the couch, whichever works at the time.
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I would be interested in knowing the breakdown of formula feeding vs. breastfeeding between the two sleeping categories. I think we'd probably find that formula or bottle feeders tend to crib sleep from the start, while breastfeeders tend to co-sleep. It makes sense to co-sleep when breastfeeding since babies often nurse more frequently and it's easy to just grab the baby and attach them without getting out of bed. If you formula or bottle feed, you have to get up out of bed anyway, so its less hassle to go to a crib or separate sleeping area (because you already have to get up to make the bottle).
The wife breast feeds, my first kid crib slept since she was 4 months old. Our 1.5 year old still invades our bed every night between 1 and 3 am. I think you should do what works for you. Every family is different and every child has different needs. I am soooo sick of this "ONE SIZE FITS ALL" crap. Again>>> DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!<<<
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Every kid is different. My first was sleeping in my bed with me until she was 3 and it was a struggle to get her in her own bed - totally my fault. My second slept in a bassinet near the bed from day one so I could just hop up and feed her. She never slept in our bed, and won't even nap with me. Our bed means it's time to play and not sleep. So unless I want my eyes gouged out in my sleep, she stays in her crib. The older one (8) still wants to sleep in my bed. Hell to the no little child.
Different strokes for different folks. If you do co-sleep, make sure you take precautions to be safe. There are several products out there that make co-sleeping a great and safe thing. I can't imagine waking up having smothered your infant...horrible.
our plan is to crib sleep.
i dont even think we are going to do a bassinet in our room to start off with.
Co-sleeping is something that's always kind of bugged me out, and I wondered if being a parent would change my perspective (as it has proven to for a few topics). In conclusion, it has not... our daughter is 10 months now and I can't imagine co-sleeping. We've had a couple rough teething nights that we ended up having her in our bed and it was not for us.
That's not to say that it's inherently wrong... I am a firm believer that all kids are different, whether it's nature or nurture is irrelevant. You've gotta do what works for you.
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I wouldn't want to be getting up and going into another room every 1.5 hrs to change a diaper, feed the baby, burp the baby (took my daughter almost 20 minutes to burp or she would puke everywhere), get the baby back to sleep...only to start all over again once you finally fall asleep.