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      01-30-2012 09:58 AM #1
      Buller ....

      Who's gone through it .
      How did you break the news that you wanted out ?


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      01-30-2012 10:04 AM #2
      What did you do this time, Chilledman?

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      01-30-2012 10:13 AM #3
      Not what I have done, what I want to do.

      Been married for 12+ years ( since I was 20 )

      And just 0 intrest in it any more , along with realizing the Religion / Cult I used to be with is a load of crap , I feel that I need 100% change in my life right now.

      - alsothesexissobadidontevenwantitanymore

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      01-30-2012 10:18 AM #4
      I think getting married at 20 adds more complexity than I would understand. I'm sure there are people here that got married super young and lost a lot of their best years. JK

      Also, if you were married while in a religion/cult, then there is another level. I wouldn't feel bad about just being honest and letting her know that my life is completely different now and I need to move on. You know, the old it's not you, it's me talk.

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      01-30-2012 10:20 AM #5
      Also while doing this I will end up alienating all my friends and family due to there Religious brain washing.

      TL;DR - Basicly bailing on everyone and everything and starting over.

      So more so to the woman , how would you want the news told to you by your significant other ?

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      01-30-2012 10:23 AM #6
      Quote Originally Posted by Papa Dras View Post
      I think getting married at 20 adds more complexity than I would understand. I'm sure there are people here that got married super young and lost a lot of their best years. JK

      Also, if you were married while in a religion/cult, then there is another level. I wouldn't feel bad about just being honest and letting her know that my life is completely different now and I need to move on. You know, the old it's not you, it's me talk.
      dude I cant agree more !

      We have know each other for almost 20 years , and if its this bad now .....

      - I personally view its time to get out when she goes on a trip and you hope the plane crashes .....

      -Will be back in a week or so going to quit my job now and the laptop is theres so ...
      Leave some ideas !
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      01-30-2012 12:46 PM #7
      Got any kids?

      If not, this could be real easy to pull off.

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      01-30-2012 01:07 PM #8
      Exactly. He has no kids and his friends/wife are from a religious cult. Easy as pie in imo.

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      01-30-2012 01:45 PM #9
      Quote Originally Posted by smittyATL View Post
      Got any kids?

      If not, this could be real easy to pull off.
      Hellllllsssss no !!!

      And with.the new job now.
      W with 60% + travel. And a non religious friend of mine with a open room this is the prime time to exscape .

      Trying to find the best way to break it to her more or less ....

      - logged.my phone in its worse typing on here then my laptop .....

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      01-30-2012 03:10 PM #10
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      Trying to find the best way to break it to her more or less ...
      I guess if it's all about you and you know your wife wouldn't want to change to be with you, then just pull the cord. If it were ME, I'd carefully move a bunch of my stuff out before telling her (like when she's on that plane trip).

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      01-30-2012 04:01 PM #11
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post

      -Will be back in a week or so going to quit my job now and the laptop is theres so ...
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      Jesus... your typing is going to get WORSE!?

      I don't have any good advice, other than I would keep it short and simple. No need to go on forever or it'll just get worse. Kinda like your typing.

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      01-30-2012 04:32 PM #12
      maybe he puts as much work into his marriage as he does typing

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      01-30-2012 09:57 PM #13
      Lol actually my spelling should be better since my phone autocorrects everything.

      I think I am just going to go with .

      It's.not you its me we have grown apart since I have changed.who I am and what I want in life over the last few years .

      . Is near the spacebar ....

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      01-30-2012 09:58 PM #14
      Quote Originally Posted by Papa Dras View Post
      maybe he puts as much work into his marriage as he does typing
      Right now I am putting more into my spelling........

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      01-30-2012 10:13 PM #15
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      Right now I am putting more into my spelling........
      Maybe that's what you should tell her? Haha

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      01-31-2012 06:45 AM #16
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      So more so to the woman , how would you want the news told to you by your significant other ?
      Honest and direct. I'd ask for a serious discussion and then work from there. There is no easy way to break news like this.

      I had a hell of a time breaking up with girls in high school, I couldn't imagine how difficult it would be to do it with a wife of 12 years.

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      01-31-2012 10:49 AM #17
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      Not what I have done, what I want to do.

      Been married for 12+ years ( since I was 20 )

      And just 0 intrest in it any more , along with realizing the Religion / Cult I used to be with is a load of crap , I feel that I need 100% change in my life right now.

      - alsothesexissobadidontevenwantitanymore
      that sucks, sorry to hear
      when did you quit buying into the religious stuff? did OT lead you into the Darkside?
      bwahahaha, personally I'd rather lol with the sinners than cry with the saints...

      I'm sure bringing up the discussion of divorce is going to be difficult, maybe drink a *little* beforehand, not too much though, haha
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      01-31-2012 11:20 AM #18
      Quote Originally Posted by mkII_short_dub View Post
      that sucks, sorry to hear
      when did you quit buying into the religious stuff?
      New job w/more money = insecurity issues gone



      Seriously Chilledman, good luck.


      I'm sure bringing up the discussion of divorce is going to be difficult, maybe drink a *little* beforehand, not too much though, haha

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      01-31-2012 02:18 PM #19
      This is why it's better to not get hitched in the 20s and just chill. When you look at love in your 20s, it felt so right and so perfect. Now you look back, it was so spur of the moment and so reckless and that's what made it feel so good.

      I think ultimately Marriages should have an expiration date so people can plan for an eventual separation or extension if things are working out.

      The person you marry should be someone that you are hiring to become your business partner. They have to fit your purpose in life and have the ability to complement your attributes.

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      01-31-2012 03:16 PM #20
      Quote Originally Posted by Vision33r View Post
      This is why it's better to not get hitched in the 20s and just chill. When you look at love in your 20s, it felt so right and so perfect. Now you look back, it was so spur of the moment and so reckless and that's what made it feel so good.

      I think ultimately Marriages should have an expiration date so people can plan for an eventual separation or extension if things are working out.

      The person you marry should be someone that you are hiring to become your business partner. They have to fit your purpose in life and have the ability to complement your attributes.
      Minus the sex and the religion she's does .
      She is an awesome person and very helpful and willing to do most anything for me .

      But the relgion.thing is a huge issue and who wants a pretty much sexless life either ?

      She makes a great friend but a ****ty lover .
      And right now I just really want someone to burry into the mattress right now

      It's shallow I know but I have been there and done the rest I want something different .

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      01-31-2012 03:17 PM #21
      Quote Originally Posted by FlashRedGLS1.8T View Post
      New job w/more money = insecurity issues gone



      Seriously Chilledman, good luck.




      Game set match !

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      01-31-2012 03:24 PM #22
      Quote Originally Posted by mkII_short_dub View Post
      that sucks, sorry to hear
      when did you quit buying into the religious stuff? did OT lead you into the Darkside?
      bwahahaha, personally I'd rather lol with the sinners than cry with the saints...

      I'm sure bringing up the discussion of divorce is going to be difficult, maybe drink a *little* beforehand, not too much though, haha
      Hey since I will be single soon and covering Ohio .......lolz

      But seriously I personally never bought into it ever its something that I just did for everyone else and now with the new job and just comming to the simple relazation that its all bs , I have a short time here I want to enjoy that time I have left.

      That and its something that has been back there since I was.17 and finally.now able to act on it .

      Plus with the job and away every other week I know I won't be faithful and I would rather leave before I cheat on her.
      I personally.respect. her to much to do that to her .
      She needs someone else that is more family and more religious oriented then I will ever be.

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      01-31-2012 03:33 PM #23
      Divorce sucks, whether you wanted it or not. Plan to be angry as all hell at the crap she's going to put you through because "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" You better be trying to hide that $20k because she or a lawyer is going to end up with it.

      You know why divorce is so expensive? Because it's ****ing worth it!

      Or, you can try to work it out with her first. Try marriage counseling. Although, I would never have married a Jehovah's Witness
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      01-31-2012 03:35 PM #24
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      Hey since I will be single soon and covering Ohio .......lolz

      But seriously I personally never bought into it ever its something that I just did for everyone else and now with the new job and just comming to the simple relazation that its all bs , I have a short time here I want to enjoy that time I have left.

      That and its something that has been back there since I was.17 and finally.now able to act on it .

      Plus with the job and away every other week I know I won't be faithful and I would rather leave before I cheat on her.
      I personally.respect. her to much to do that to her .
      She needs someone else that is more family and more religious oriented then I will ever be.
      Taking a walk on the wild side and exploring your options from the homo thread?
      Quote Originally Posted by winstonsmith84 View Post
      Tax? I don't mind paying state sales tax. Every time a see a pothole, a school that is falling down or a canceled essential state program, I remind myself why.
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      535 members of congress plus 1 pres screwing us all the time...that's dirty pirate hooker level gang rape.

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      01-31-2012 03:36 PM #25
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      She makes a great friend but a ****ty lover .
      And right now I just really want someone to burry into the mattress right now
      Lol!

      Make sure you think through the long term consequences of going through with this.
      I'm not trying to tell you not do proceed, just reminding you that there are ramifications.

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