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      02-02-2012 10:59 AM #36
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      And right now I just really want someone to burry into the mattress right now

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      02-02-2012 06:03 PM #37


      That is an fantastic pic !

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      02-02-2012 06:15 PM #38
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      You just found out above now? Should've thought about that before you got married. But I understand things change.

      So you have 0 love for your wife?

      Hope you are not thinking about another relationship anytime soon...
      I was 19/20 at the time what do you expect ?

      I do love her dont get me wrong shes a great person but as others said what I want in life and what she wants are now turning into two different directions.

      Another relationship .... hells no I got a bunch of single guy stuff I want " todo "

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      02-03-2012 01:38 PM #39
      If you love her then I would say try one more time.

      SPILL all of your feelings about the stupid cult/religion and tell her how you really feel.

      Hiding those feelings and just packing up and leaving is probably not the best way to go.

      Kind of sounds like you are just horny for other *****. Sure go nuts chasing it, just keep in mind that in the long chasing skirt will get boring and your feelings will remain.

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      02-03-2012 07:03 PM #40
      Bro just be straight forward with her. Tell her how you feel and tell her what you intend to do. It will just be easier then giving her some lame cop out about you guys growing apart.

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      02-03-2012 10:48 PM #41
      Quote Originally Posted by Varsix View Post
      Bro just be straight forward with her. Tell her how you feel and tell her what you intend to do. It will just be easier then giving her some lame cop out about you guys growing apart.
      It's not a cop out at all we are going apart .
      Well.she's still the same person and I am going in the opposite.direction.

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      02-03-2012 10:50 PM #42
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      If you love her then I would say try one more time.

      SPILL all of your feelings about the stupid cult/religion and tell her how you really feel.

      Hiding those feelings and just packing up and leaving is probably not the best way to go.

      Kind of sounds like you are just horny for other *****. Sure go nuts chasing it, just keep in mind that in the long chasing skirt will get boring and your feelings will remain.
      I am willing to.take that chance .
      You have one life to live and I want to try something new .

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      02-04-2012 09:10 AM #43
      So, you know what to do and are going to do it. Good luck. And to add to your terrible typing, I see that you have decided to throw in random periods between words. Nice touch.

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      02-04-2012 02:15 PM #44
      Quote Originally Posted by Papa Dras View Post
      So, you know what to do and are going to do it. Good luck. And to add to your terrible typing, I see that you have decided to throw in random periods between words. Nice touch.
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      02-04-2012 03:46 PM #45
      Add another tally to the notion of being honest, direct, and straight forward. Don't use any vague language or phrases that will lead her on.

      It's going to be a difficult situation but just being straight forward with her and not leading her on will be better in the end. Good luck, man.

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      02-06-2012 03:54 PM #46
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      I am willing to.take that chance .
      You have one life to live and I want to try something new .
      You are being selfish.

      If you love this woman then save her. She needs your help!!!

      Only thing you can do is try. Tell her you love her, tell her how you feel and your concerns. Also tell her that you need to see the change in order to continue.

      But I have this feeling that even if she was to give up the cult/church......you would still "need something new".

      Be a man, you made a commitment and gave her your word.
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      02-07-2012 10:22 PM #47
      Planning on telling her next weekend .

      What's a better day ?
      Friday ?
      Saturday?
      Sunday ?

      Or maybe the weekend after since I will be abe away the last week of the month for work .....

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      02-09-2012 11:40 AM #48
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      There both selfish *******s .
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      02-09-2012 12:20 PM #49
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post
      Planning on telling her next weekend .

      What's a better day ?
      Friday ?
      Saturday?
      Sunday ?

      Or maybe the weekend after since I will be abe away the last week of the month for work .....
      Just send her a text bro.

    15. 02-09-2012 03:51 PM #50
      No kids means I see no problem with this. If you are not happy and are certain that you will not be happy staying in this marriage, then tell your wife straight to her face and move on with your life.

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      02-11-2012 12:02 AM #51
      Quote Originally Posted by FlashRedGLS1.8T View Post
      Just send her a text bro.
      Trust me I am tempted.

      Send it to.her and her parents and the rest of her family at one shot , not am I am leaving her , and the rest of you also

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      02-12-2012 10:33 AM #52
      Just tell her in a Valentine's day card.

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      02-12-2012 06:54 PM #53
      Quote Originally Posted by Cooper View Post
      Just tell her in a Valentine's day card.
      Nothing says, I love you, like a card that says, "I don't love you and don't want to be with you anymore".

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      02-12-2012 10:45 PM #54
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      Nothing says, I love you, like a card that says, "I don't love you and don't want to be with you anymore".


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .

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      02-13-2012 06:57 AM #55
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
      Good luck.

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      02-13-2012 11:52 AM #56
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
      Or time to cancel the homeowners insurance and burn the house down.
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      02-13-2012 01:40 PM #57
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
      Wait - Are you doing this in person and then leaving for a week on business, or are you planning to break up with your WIFE over the PHONE while away on business?

    23. 02-13-2012 02:14 PM #58
      Quote Originally Posted by Egilbe View Post
      Or time to cancel the homeowners insurance and burn the house down.
      I was going to go with "stick his toothbrush up her ass and throw all his stuff on the lawn", but your idea sounds plausible as well.

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      02-13-2012 10:31 PM #59
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      Wait - Are you doing this in person and then leaving for a week on business, or are you planning to break up with your WIFE over the PHONE while away on business?
      In person .

      No.way in Hell I would do this over the phone .

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      02-13-2012 10:54 PM #60
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
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      02-14-2012 06:57 AM #61
      Quote Originally Posted by NZTIGUAN View Post
      What a hero ....................... NOT
      What would you suggest?

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      02-14-2012 11:09 AM #62
      good luck man, you see lots of people drag out in relationships that arent happy. seems like you are being level headed and reasonable.

      my guess is that she is of some hardcore religion and sex and all that is dirty/for procreation only.
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      02-14-2012 12:25 PM #63
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      You just found out above now? Should've thought about that before you got married. But I understand things change.
      i understand where you are coming from, but chilled got married super young.

      you change multiple times between 18-30...
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      What would you suggest?
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      02-14-2012 04:08 PM #66
      Quote Originally Posted by dunhamjr View Post
      i understand where you are coming from, but chilled got married super young.

      you change multiple times between 18-30...
      I got married at 21, been with my wife since 16!


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      02-14-2012 04:26 PM #67
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      I got married at 21, been with my wife since 16!

      thats fine. there are exceptions to every rule. the rule of marriage is that more then half end in divorce.

      i am actually curious now, what the rate is for people who got married at 16-20 yrs old. and not just that they last 10 or 20 yrs. but that they never divorce and actually follow 'till death do us part'.
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      02-14-2012 04:27 PM #68
      Quote Originally Posted by dunhamjr View Post
      thats fine. there are exceptions to every rule. the rule of marriage is that more then half end in divorce.

      i am actually curious now, what the rate is for people who got married at 16-20 yrs old. and not just that they last 10 or 20 yrs. but that they never divorce and actually follow 'till death do us part'.
      It all depends on the person. Not the age.

      In my wife's family both of her grandparents were high school sweet hearts and married until death. We are trying to keep the tradition going. Well, actually didn't intend to do that from the get go....just turned out that way.

      Last edited by VdubChaos; 02-14-2012 at 04:31 PM.

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      02-14-2012 04:29 PM #69

      The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
      The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
      The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%

      Mean age at first divorce
      For Males: 30.5 yrs.
      For Females: 29 yrs.

      Age at marriage for those who divorce in America
      Age Women Men
      Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
      20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
      25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
      30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
      35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%

      Seems like a VAST majority of the divorces happen to people who got married before reaching 30 yrs old.
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      02-14-2012 04:31 PM #70
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      It all depends on the person. Not the age.

      In my wife's family both of her grandparents were high school sweet hearts and married until death.

      agree.

      but talking about grandparents is a little out of touch.

      they grew up in a vastly different time. values and such are WAY different when you look at people who were getting married 50-70 years ago.
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