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      02-11-2012 12:02 AM #51
      Quote Originally Posted by FlashRedGLS1.8T View Post
      Just send her a text bro.
      Trust me I am tempted.

      Send it to.her and her parents and the rest of her family at one shot , not am I am leaving her , and the rest of you also

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      02-12-2012 10:33 AM #52
      Just tell her in a Valentine's day card.

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      02-12-2012 06:54 PM #53
      Quote Originally Posted by Cooper View Post
      Just tell her in a Valentine's day card.
      Nothing says, I love you, like a card that says, "I don't love you and don't want to be with you anymore".

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      02-12-2012 10:45 PM #54
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      Nothing says, I love you, like a card that says, "I don't love you and don't want to be with you anymore".


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .

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      02-13-2012 06:57 AM #55
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
      Good luck.

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      02-13-2012 11:52 AM #56
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
      Or time to cancel the homeowners insurance and burn the house down.
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      02-13-2012 01:40 PM #57
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
      Wait - Are you doing this in person and then leaving for a week on business, or are you planning to break up with your WIFE over the PHONE while away on business?

    8. 02-13-2012 02:14 PM #58
      Quote Originally Posted by Egilbe View Post
      Or time to cancel the homeowners insurance and burn the house down.
      I was going to go with "stick his toothbrush up her ass and throw all his stuff on the lawn", but your idea sounds plausible as well.

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      02-13-2012 10:31 PM #59
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      Wait - Are you doing this in person and then leaving for a week on business, or are you planning to break up with your WIFE over the PHONE while away on business?
      In person .

      No.way in Hell I would do this over the phone .

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      02-13-2012 10:54 PM #60
      Quote Originally Posted by Chilledman View Post


      The 24th is the D day .
      Already got a place to stay for.a few months if needed.
      Main reason for waiting til then is I will.be away for next week.
      That will give her crazy family time to console her.and maybe get her.moved out if I am lucky .
      What a hero ....................... NOT
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      02-14-2012 06:57 AM #61
      Quote Originally Posted by NZTIGUAN View Post
      What a hero ....................... NOT
      What would you suggest?

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      02-14-2012 11:09 AM #62
      good luck man, you see lots of people drag out in relationships that arent happy. seems like you are being level headed and reasonable.

      my guess is that she is of some hardcore religion and sex and all that is dirty/for procreation only.
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      02-14-2012 12:25 PM #63
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      You just found out above now? Should've thought about that before you got married. But I understand things change.
      i understand where you are coming from, but chilled got married super young.

      you change multiple times between 18-30...
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    14. 02-14-2012 01:59 PM #64
      Quote Originally Posted by FlashRedGLS1.8T View Post
      What would you suggest?
      Buying gold.

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      02-14-2012 02:10 PM #65
      Quote Originally Posted by Biz View Post
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      02-14-2012 04:08 PM #66
      Quote Originally Posted by dunhamjr View Post
      i understand where you are coming from, but chilled got married super young.

      you change multiple times between 18-30...
      I got married at 21, been with my wife since 16!


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      02-14-2012 04:26 PM #67
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      I got married at 21, been with my wife since 16!

      thats fine. there are exceptions to every rule. the rule of marriage is that more then half end in divorce.

      i am actually curious now, what the rate is for people who got married at 16-20 yrs old. and not just that they last 10 or 20 yrs. but that they never divorce and actually follow 'till death do us part'.
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      02-14-2012 04:27 PM #68
      Quote Originally Posted by dunhamjr View Post
      thats fine. there are exceptions to every rule. the rule of marriage is that more then half end in divorce.

      i am actually curious now, what the rate is for people who got married at 16-20 yrs old. and not just that they last 10 or 20 yrs. but that they never divorce and actually follow 'till death do us part'.
      It all depends on the person. Not the age.

      In my wife's family both of her grandparents were high school sweet hearts and married until death. We are trying to keep the tradition going. Well, actually didn't intend to do that from the get go....just turned out that way.

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      02-14-2012 04:29 PM #69

      The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
      The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
      The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%

      Mean age at first divorce
      For Males: 30.5 yrs.
      For Females: 29 yrs.

      Age at marriage for those who divorce in America
      Age Women Men
      Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
      20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
      25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
      30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
      35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%

      Seems like a VAST majority of the divorces happen to people who got married before reaching 30 yrs old.
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      02-14-2012 04:31 PM #70
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      It all depends on the person. Not the age.

      In my wife's family both of her grandparents were high school sweet hearts and married until death.

      agree.

      but talking about grandparents is a little out of touch.

      they grew up in a vastly different time. values and such are WAY different when you look at people who were getting married 50-70 years ago.
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      02-14-2012 05:51 PM #71
      Quote Originally Posted by FlashRedGLS1.8T View Post
      What would you suggest?
      That he actually "grows a pair" and talks to his wife in a genuine and caring way. After that, if they can't reach a compromise that satisfies them both THEN by all means go down the separation / divorce track TOGETHER !!

      I'm not saying that they should stay together regardless, but I am saying he needs to be a decent person over the whole deal and not just "dump and run". No woman deserves that and he'd be the first to bleat if it was done to him.

      I'm one of the "lucky ones", been married 38 years, married at 19 and 21, and the harder we try the more "lucky" we get. Dump and run is for a-holes.
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      02-14-2012 06:03 PM #72
      Been with my wife since I was 18, she was 17. Married at 24.

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      02-14-2012 06:05 PM #73
      Quote Originally Posted by NZTIGUAN View Post
      Dump and run is for a-holes.
      If I remember correctly, he said that they've had some conversations about the viability of their marriage previously.

      No a-hole.

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      02-14-2012 07:10 PM #74
      Quote Originally Posted by FlashRedGLS1.8T View Post
      If I remember correctly, he said that they've had some conversations about the viability of their marriage previously.

      No a-hole.
      Well why's he talking about telling her and then running away for a week, hardly an up-front "decent" thing to do in anybody's books !!
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      02-15-2012 05:07 AM #75
      Quote Originally Posted by NZTIGUAN View Post
      Well why's he talking about telling her and then running away for a week, hardly an up-front "decent" thing to do in anybody's books !!
      Well, there would never be a "good" time or "decent" time to do something like this. I suspect the week trip would actually make things more convenient for all - would YOU want to spend a night or the next few nights in the same house as your just-now-don't-love-you-anymore spouse?

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