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    Thread: S.C.S. - Single Child Syndrome

    1. 02-10-2012 07:16 PM #26
      My cousin is an only child and he's a dickbag x10
      On the other hand, my wife is an only child and she turned out great. It's all in how you raise the child. Her mother (single mom) was strict but fair and never spoiled her.

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      02-14-2012 10:03 AM #27
      he came home with a D and F on his report card on friday and wanted to go to his friends house all weekend. We said no and took away his computer, xbox, iphone, etc. We told him we expect him to do the bare minimum which to us means no zeros for homework (which is why he has a D and F) and at least a C in any class. He was upset but took it ok. Spent most of the weekend in his room. Then monday he came home from school, did his homework and demanded everything back.

      We said, "No, you don't get your stuff back for doing what you are supposed to be doing for ONE day." He wanted the rules in writing so i wrote them up. If he has a D or F in a class or a zero for any assignment, homework, or project, he will be grounded and have his electronics taken away. As long as he has a D or an F or a zero on his online report card he will be grounded and have his electronics taken away. We'll see how it goes from here.
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      02-14-2012 11:43 AM #28
      Quote Originally Posted by A.Wilder View Post
      he came home with a D and F on his report card on friday...
      My kids would run away if they got a C on their report card.

      Not really, but a D and F. Holy cow.

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      02-14-2012 11:51 AM #29
      For some reason he thinks homework doesn't apply to him. If he did his homework he would have A's and B's
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      02-14-2012 11:57 AM #30
      Quote Originally Posted by A.Wilder View Post
      For some reason he thinks homework doesn't apply to him. If he did his homework he would have A's and B's
      That's a tough one, especially at his age.

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      02-14-2012 12:16 PM #31
      I'm hoping he can get his grade up by the end of the week. It's really stupid, imo, to get zeros on home work grades. I was a terrible student in high school and did the same crap, i'm not going to let him make the same mistakes as me, under my watch. College was so easy, i did my home work, read the things i was supposed to read, wrote papers, only classes i struggled with were Spanish and Math, which i still got mostly B's in.

      I'm hoping this will teach him how easy it is to keep your head above water. There is no reason to dig yourself a hole and try and get out of it at the end of every semester. It isn't even that much work, he isn't taking any honors classes this semester.
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      02-14-2012 12:19 PM #32
      Quote Originally Posted by You are to blame View Post
      He doesn't want to do chores? Take away his video games and store them in the garage. That's all I have to offer since my kids are not at that age yet.
      or a pawn shop.
      if he doesnt act right, then the games go away.
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      02-14-2012 12:39 PM #33
      i forgot to mention i put a locking door on the office, where all the games and computers are. So everything is locked up when/if me and the mom are away. He was pretty when he watched me installing it
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      02-14-2012 12:43 PM #34
      Quote Originally Posted by A.Wilder View Post
      i forgot to mention i put a locking door on the office, where all the games and computers are. So everything is locked up when/if me and the mom are away. He was pretty when he watched me installing it
      good on you.

      my wife is an 8th grade teacher and she always tells me how parents have issues keeping their kids from doing things...

      ie "i take the game cable away but they just steal it back".

      my take.
      cut the cable in half with scissors. toss it in the brush shredder. destroy that thing, and then lets see how well the game machine works. if they can figure out how to put the item back together with glue and solder, then they can have it back.
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      02-14-2012 12:47 PM #35
      Quote Originally Posted by A.Wilder View Post
      i forgot to mention i put a locking door on the office, where all the games and computers are. So everything is locked up when/if me and the mom are away. He was pretty when he watched me installing it
      Nothing wrong with that.

      I'd keep one key for it and I'd keep it on a necklace around my neck.

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      02-14-2012 12:56 PM #36
      Quote Originally Posted by dunhamjr View Post

      my wife is an 8th grade teacher and she always tells me how parents have issues keeping their kids from doing things...

      ie "i take the game cable away but they just steal it back".
      My wife told the same thing during a venting session to me one day about a 5th grader's parent....I just sat there.

      Evidently this was the only time my wife has ever had anyone (her principal/boss) talk to her about "remembering to be professional with parents", because her response to the parent was "you're making a really bad joke, right?"(I had this confirmed by multiple tipsy teachers at a teacher-party later...i'm so proud).

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      02-14-2012 01:19 PM #37
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      My wife told the same thing during a venting session to me one day about a 5th grader's parent....I just sat there.

      Evidently this was the only time my wife has ever had anyone (her principal/boss) talk to her about "remembering to be professional with parents", because her response to the parent was "you're making a really bad joke, right?"(I had this confirmed by multiple tipsy teachers at a teacher-party later...i'm so proud).
      i always laugh at the stories where the kid is telling the parents to shut up.

      if that ever happens to me, it will only ever happen once. once.
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      02-14-2012 01:26 PM #38
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      My wife told the same thing during a venting session to me one day about a 5th grader's parent....I just sat there.

      Evidently this was the only time my wife has ever had anyone (her principal/boss) talk to her about "remembering to be professional with parents", because her response to the parent was "you're making a really bad joke, right?"
      I imagine it would be hard to keep your mouth in censorship mode in that circumstance.

      Quote Originally Posted by dunhamjr View Post
      i always laugh at the stories where the kid is telling the parents to shut up.

      if that ever happens to me, it will only ever happen once. once.
      It hasn't happened yet and if it does....a wrath like no other will be brought down...liek no other.

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      02-14-2012 01:41 PM #39
      I always keep my opinion on parenting to myself, unless asked. But my god, American parents have gone bat-**** crazy for the most part.
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      02-15-2012 09:08 AM #40
      Quote Originally Posted by A.Wilder View Post
      I always keep my opinion on parenting to myself, unless asked. But my god, American parents have gone bat-**** crazy for the most part.
      And no matter what you do at home, your kids will go to school with above's kids.....and WILL be influenced in some way/shape or form.


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      02-15-2012 10:15 AM #41
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      And no matter what you do at home, your kids will go to school with above's kids.....and WILL be influenced in some way/shape or form.

      And require extra a$$ whooping when they get home.

      This happens when my kid spends a weekend with grandma not saying "no". She comes home and it takes a day or two of to get her back to normal.

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      02-15-2012 10:39 AM #42
      Quote Originally Posted by smittyATL View Post
      She comes home and it takes a day or two of to get her back to normal.
      I loathe when my kids come back from my in-laws, after a few days, ugh.

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      02-15-2012 10:44 AM #43
      Quote Originally Posted by smittyATL View Post
      And require extra a$$ whooping when they get home.

      This happens when my kid spends a weekend with grandma not saying "no". She comes home and it takes a day or two of to get her back to normal.
      Hehe, sounds like we are dealing with the same ****.

      My kids are not even allowed at inlaws.

      Heck even my mother who is hard core old school Polish type of a grandma give them way too much freedom/spoiling for my liking (but it's also a language gap etc).

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      02-15-2012 12:51 PM #44
      Quote Originally Posted by VdubChaos View Post
      Hehe, sounds like we are dealing with the same ****.

      My kids are not even allowed at inlaws.

      Heck even my mother who is hard core old school Polish type of a grandma give them way too much freedom/spoiling for my liking (but it's also a language gap etc).
      Heck even my mother-in-law who is hard core old school Korean type of a grandma give them way too much freedom/spoiling for my liking (but it's also a language gap etc).

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      02-15-2012 12:58 PM #45
      Quote Originally Posted by smittyATL View Post
      Heck even my mother-in-law who is hard core old school Korean type of a grandma give them way too much freedom/spoiling for my liking (but it's also a language gap etc).
      hehe

      my mom cannot/does not sense attitude from my daughter. Pisses me off cause when I was young she would beat the crap out of me.


    21. 02-15-2012 05:39 PM #46
      Quote Originally Posted by A.Wilder View Post
      He wanted the rules in writing so i wrote them up.
      I wouldn't write a god d@mn thing up. When he becomes a parent, he can write sh!t up, until then, this isn't a democracy.

      My mother was a single mother and even though I outweighed her and was much stronger, there is no doubt in my mind I would loose a fight with her. I got hit with the nearest thing to her sometimes. I had it pretty easy too.

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      02-16-2012 05:26 PM #47
      writing the rules down wasn't a big deal, i had already emailed with his mother about how to handle things. And besides, it helps for him to know exactly what our expectations are. He is doing a lot better after only a week.
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      04-07-2012 05:24 PM #48
      Quote Originally Posted by FlashRedGLS1.8T View Post
      Nothing wrong with that.

      I'd keep one key for it and I'd keep it on a necklace around my neck.
      Yeah, I've found with my 12 y/o that they are often looking for the boundaries to feel secure and loved. Ultimately he's looking to please and with his chores done he enjoys his playing and hanging out with his friends more.
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      04-07-2012 10:25 PM #49
      We're only having one child. My son was born 18 months ago and I already had surgery to ensure that.

      Anyways, we're already taking steps to ensure there are no issues like OP is talking about. Making sure he's around lots of kids his age, and we DON'T give in to his demands and temper tantrums.

      Its actually funny to watch an 18 month old throw a tantrum. We actually laugh out loud when he does it. But he will and does get over it. I can see some parents giving in all the time tough, even for small things such as throwing a tantrum for more juice....

      I'm sure it will get tougher but we're ready.

      For the OP, I'd definitely crack down on him. Take away one thing at a time that he loves and make sure he knows his place in the family.

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      04-16-2012 04:17 PM #50
      Here are some of the rules for our 15 yo...

      1. Daily must-dos after school: homework, reading (minimum 1 hour), practice guitar and piano.

      2. You EARN your electronic (TV, XBox, FB/youtube/internet, etc.) time by doing chores, not the other way around. Daily chores include take the trash out (all rooms), make your bed, pull your curtains, clear the dishes from the dishwasher, and help mom with setting up dinner.

      3. No TV, PC or Xbox in the bedroom (do not allow them having their own TV or PC in bedroom). Bed time 9PM weekdays. Computer will lock him out at exactly 9PM.

      4. Maturity and responsibility - I can treat you like a 15 yo, or I can also treat you like a 5 yo. If you tell me you will be home at 5, you'd better watch your time or you won't get to hang out that long the next time. If you don't answer the phone or reply to my text promptly, I'll take that phone away.

      5. Clean up after your mess. I just locked up all the tools last weekend and dumped all his longboard project in a trashbag because he did not clean up the bench. If you borrow my tripod and don't return it to its place, you don't get to use it again. Etc.

      6. Grades - We are not "tiger" parents, but we want you to try your best and learn from your mistakes. These lessons not only will help you now and but are also valuable lessons for college and later in life. If you tripped on stupid mistakes on exams, learn to read the questions more carefully and check your answers. If you get A in one quarter and slide to B in the next, you need to refocus and quit being overconfident. Learn from your grades and learn to decipher what to do to earn a higher grade from a teacher. Each teacher has different expectations.
      If your grade falls, you'll get more parental scrutiny. If your grade improves, you'll get encouragement and more leeway when you want things.

      7. Allowance - divided into 3 parts - saving, charity and actual spending.

      8. Family quality time - try to have family dinner as much as possible. Also do things on weekends. Try not to let them shut you out of their lives
      Last edited by sg207ptg; 04-16-2012 at 04:20 PM.

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