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      03-20-2012 08:59 PM #26
      Quote Originally Posted by foxtrot762 View Post
      Yeah I didn't push my wife to breast feed. She was more comfortable pumping and bottle feeding. Less stress for her and not as much awake time for either of us. It was taking him 45 minutes to an hour to 1. latch on and 2. stay awake long enough to use it.
      With the bottle, he's up for his feeding and asleep again in 15 minutes and that's with a diaper change.
      That's totally normal for his age. You have to remember they don't know what they're doing - they have the instinct but not the "skill" (at least, initially) It gets much, much easier the longer you breastfeed. The first 2 weeks were hell and by 10 weeks or so, things were going much more smoothly for us.

      And hopefully your wife is still having him latch because it can be difficult to maintain supply on a pump alone. Babies are more efficient at getting the milk than any pump ever is.

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      PS. My wife tried the whole pumping thing (I even got her a really nice pump) but she gave up after few times and went ahead with breast feeding. This was on our 3rd and 4th child.
      I thought I would want to pump a lot and do bottles, but honestly, breastfeeding is way easier. Less stuff to wash, sanitize, pack around, and no thawing/warming etc.

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      03-21-2012 01:57 PM #27
      Quote Originally Posted by firefighterjunkie View Post
      I thought I would want to pump a lot and do bottles, but honestly, breastfeeding is way easier. Less stuff to wash, sanitize, pack around, and no thawing/warming etc.
      The main reason - I don't have to wake up every 3-4 hours.

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      03-21-2012 03:30 PM #28
      My kid is 3 months tomorrow and I still check his breathing incessantly.

      The good news is the feedings get fewer in the night and the sleep gets longer, he is finally going for a 6 hour stretch now generally starting around 9ish or so. But man those early feedings, yes they take 45-60 minutes, then you need to get them back to sleep, then they wake up 45-60 minutes later. Such a horrible sleep pattern but it doesn't last forever.

      As for the nursing that can be rough on everyone. Mom is stressed, baby is upset and hungry, etc. We did the whole syringe thing for a few weeks but gave up and went to a bottle for supplement or pumped milk. She doesnt even really pump anymore, just nurse and then a bottle later when he wants more. He has never had any issue going between the Medela & Dr Brown bottles & nursing, does it seamlessly.
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      03-21-2012 03:34 PM #29
      I'm just going to say my wife is a world-class breast feeder. She did the first kid 18 months and has had no issue through the first five months of Kid 2.0.

      We co-sleep but I'd never know it because I'm a heavy sleeper (wife is in the middle spot). She just rolls over and feeds the kid. She can sleep and feed at the same time. I get all the sleep I want.

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      03-26-2012 11:51 AM #30
      Try having twins

      I was kind of paranoid like that at first because my daughter had many chocking incidents that scared the living crap out of me. Even had to take her to the emergency room once.

      My wife had an insanely complicated c-section and she almost died but thank god everything worked out. She was really weak for the first 2 weeks specially and I had to just suck up all my worries and just feed my twins every 3 hours. We used formula and still do.

      We bought the angel care monitors that monitor movement and that has eased my worries through the night. I have a really weird habit or always checking if they are breathing even though they are 6 months now.

      Like most are saying, just suck it up and do it
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    6. 03-26-2012 02:57 PM #31
      We bought the angel care monitors that monitor movement and that has eased my worries through the night.
      I know people will chastise me for being paranoid, but we also have the Angel Care monitor and I LOVE it. It eased my mind so much which led to a better, more relaxed sleep for everybody.

      I plan to use it when my daughter is a teenager too so I can be alerted when she sneaks out at night

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      03-26-2012 03:11 PM #32
      Quote Originally Posted by foxtrot762 View Post
      I'm recently a new dad. My wife had our son last Saturday and we only just yesterday got to bring him home from the hospital. Last night was our first night with him and boy...those feedings every 2.5 hours really wear on you. I'm a worrier by nature...my mother was that way and I suppose I got it from her.
      Anyway my wife has been having trouble getting him to take to the breast. When he gets it, he really gets it but it's a fight to get him to latch properly. She's thinking of just pumping and feeding him the bottle since he takes that like a champ.
      Every little sound he makes has me jumping up to see what's wrong. I'm slowly starting to chill out but my stomach is in knots most of the time with thoughts of stupid things like more long nights and such. He's healthy and hardly cries but I can't help but feel sick to my stomach (nerves)

      Did any of you get sick to your stomach from being so anxious? I'm sure it's normal but I can't seem to find anyway to ease my anxiety. I'm trying to keep my mind off of it but I can't help but think ahead to the next feeding/diaper/sleepless night.
      No, I was never that nervous or anxious. This is why all of these companies out there sell millions of dollars worth of garbage to new parents (i.e. special sleeping pads, pillows, electronic gadgets, etc.). If the kid is having problems latching, they make a nipple shield that your wife can put over her breast. It is basically like a nipple from a bottle that suctions over her areola/nipple. My wife had to do that for both of ours until they latched properly. You can get them anywhere and they are washable, etc.

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      03-26-2012 03:13 PM #33
      Quote Originally Posted by ort5 (2) View Post
      I know people will chastise me for being paranoid, but we also have the Angel Care monitor and I LOVE it. It eased my mind so much which led to a better, more relaxed sleep for everybody.

      I plan to use it when my daughter is a teenager too so I can be alerted when she sneaks out at night
      Have you had any false alarms? We think we have received one but when we went to see my daughter she looked fine but we were both sprinting to her her room so fast that we might have startled her so I can't confirm. And when I say sprinting, I'm pretty sure we would both beat Usain Bolt's Olympic record
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      03-26-2012 04:18 PM #34
      We know a couple that bought one of those stupid pads that babies can sleep on and it alerts you if they stop breathing. They have gone through 2 of them and they always false alarm, so they freak out. Yet, they won't just stop using them.

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      03-26-2012 04:48 PM #35
      It won't end for those parents, either. I was working a basketball tournament this weekend, but mainly hanging out with my daughter when someone came over and asked to call an ambulance. Less than 30 seconds later she tells us to cancel the ambulance as it was just a charlie horse. Mind you, these were 8th grade boys playing basketball. An effin' charlie horse.

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      03-26-2012 05:10 PM #36
      losers I tell ya. Our day care lady is super nice, but a whack job with the hospital stuff. Her son got a cold and she rushed him to the ER and then she got the flu and called an ambulance to come pick her up at home. We had a hell of a time explaining to them that we aren't wired like that and to not call us everytime our daughter falls down and cries.

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      03-26-2012 05:43 PM #37
      The real flu is the worst. I wouldn't drive a car to a hospital with the flu. Now, flu LIKE SYMPTOMS is totally different. And after seeing my wife with an actual case of diagnosed flu... I wouldn't wish it upon many people. Yes, there are people I would wish it upon, but I'd really have to hate them.

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      03-26-2012 09:42 PM #38
      Quote Originally Posted by titleist1976 View Post
      It won't end for those parents, either. I was working a basketball tournament this weekend, but mainly hanging out with my daughter when someone came over and asked to call an ambulance. Less than 30 seconds later she tells us to cancel the ambulance as it was just a charlie horse. Mind you, these were 8th grade boys playing basketball. An effin' charlie horse.
      I was working a part time job at a hospital on the weekends a few months back. One day I'm in the ER and this guy comes in with his son, figured the son had to be somewhere between 15-17 years old. They wheel him into a room and I look at him - he looks fine. I go into the room and the dad is like "You OK champ? How many fingers am I holding up? Can you see OK? It's OK buddy, hang in there, someone will see you soon!" and just totally coddling the kid. The doctor finally comes in and does the usual pleasantries and then he asks what happened. The dad - "His younger sister hit him in the face with the net side of her tennis racket by accident". The doctor - "Um, OK, was it bleeding or anything" The kid - "No, I'm fine" The dad - "No you're not! Doctor, I want xrays to make sure his nose isn't broken, I want a CT scan of his head, the works!". The doctor just shrugged and rolled his eyes. 20 minutes later they were discharging the kid and his p-offed dad - some people man

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      03-27-2012 09:56 AM #39
      Quote Originally Posted by titleist1976 View Post
      It won't end for those parents, either. I was working a basketball tournament this weekend, but mainly hanging out with my daughter when someone came over and asked to call an ambulance. Less than 30 seconds later she tells us to cancel the ambulance as it was just a charlie horse. Mind you, these were 8th grade boys playing basketball. An effin' charlie horse.
      The OP is stressed about his life change and taking care of a new born, not auditioning for Bubble Wrap kids.
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      03-27-2012 10:58 AM #40
      We get that and have responded. Now we have taken this another direction.

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      03-27-2012 11:33 AM #41
      It's been a while since any kids of mine have breast fed, but the last I knew, you wasn't suppose to switch between boob and bottle. Stick to one. They kid gets used to the shape, taste, texture of the nipple, natural or latex and it just confuses them when you keep changing it up on them.
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      03-27-2012 11:45 AM #42
      Quote Originally Posted by Papa Dras View Post
      Same stuff going around everywhere. It only took a month, but my kids are finally over it. Just in time to find out pink eye is going around the school! sweet.
      Mine had the pink eye going around the school first, then the stomach bug. Took about a month for it to clear up for them as well, what was frustrating is they would appear to be feeling better, then as the day wore on... "My stomach hurts" ....... bleeurrrghhh..... and always either on the floor or their bed.

      Quote Originally Posted by titleist1976 View Post
      I'd do whatever the **** you wife wants to do. It's a stressful time as a dad, but you've got to be ****ting me if you don't believe it was more stressful for your wife and a few bottles would have sent my wife over the deep end.
      100% agree.

      Quote Originally Posted by titleist1976 View Post
      I was sent out at 3am to a 24 hour Walgreens to look for ANY bottle and ANY formula.
      Not quite the same, but our 1st had colic, being new parents we had no idea what colic was, all we knew was that we had tried breast feeding and the baby was still crying. Someone had told me (or maybe I read somewhere) that taking them for a walk would calm a baby. So, 3am I wrapped him up in the stroller and started walking around the neighborhood, you get some strange looks when walking around in the middle of the night with a screaming baby.

      OP it gets easier, and soon you will be watching your kid stand in the hallway, naked from the waist down (potty training), standing less than a foot from the open bathroom door, tell you he needs to poop and literally drop a giant turd right there on the carpet.
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      Quote Originally Posted by naiku View Post

      OP it gets easier, and soon you will be watching your kid stand in the hallway, naked from the waist down (potty training), standing less than a foot from the open bathroom door, tell you he needs to poop and literally drop a giant turd right there on the carpet.
      HA!

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      03-28-2012 09:04 AM #44
      Quote Originally Posted by Egilbe View Post
      It's been a while since any kids of mine have breast fed, but the last I knew, you wasn't suppose to switch between boob and bottle. Stick to one. They kid gets used to the shape, taste, texture of the nipple, natural or latex and it just confuses them when you keep changing it up on them.
      In practice, this doesn't seem to be the case. Ours and others close to us have zero issues swapping boob for bottle. How else would you be able to get away for a babysitter to take over or if you go back to work?
      It sounds a but more like some of the breastfeeding nazi-talk that stressed the he'll out of my wife and caused her to be in pain for the first week after our 1st.

      Sorry- that was harsh, but I've got a couple of issues with the way laleche league and others push their ideal of breastfeeding perfection on new parents.

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      03-28-2012 04:09 PM #45
      It's natural.

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      03-30-2012 09:45 PM #46
      Quote Originally Posted by Tornado2dr View Post
      In practice, this doesn't seem to be the case. Ours and others close to us have zero issues swapping boob for bottle. How else would you be able to get away for a babysitter to take over or if you go back to work?
      It sounds a but more like some of the breastfeeding nazi-talk that stressed the he'll out of my wife and caused her to be in pain for the first week after our 1st.

      Sorry- that was harsh, but I've got a couple of issues with the way laleche league and others push their ideal of breastfeeding perfection on new parents.
      I'm not offended It wasn't my boobs swelling and leaking everywhere
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      Quote Originally Posted by Egilbe View Post
      I'm not offended It wasn't my boobs swelling and leaking everywhere
      Haha

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      I'm not offended It wasn't my boobs swelling and leaking everywhere
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      04-01-2012 06:10 PM #49
      Quote Originally Posted by naiku View Post
      OP it gets easier, and soon you will be watching your kid stand in the hallway, naked from the waist down (potty training), standing less than a foot from the open bathroom door, tell you he needs to poop and literally drop a giant turd right there on the carpet.
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      04-01-2012 08:20 PM #50
      I much rather trade in my 2 and 4 year olds for those cute cuddley 3-4month old babies. Babies are much easier to deal with than toddlers. They drink, they poo, and sleep for almost 1/2 the day.

      When you deal with toddlers you have to broaden your skillsets to include more than just feeding and cleaning after them.

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