So went to my first ADHD therapist thing on saturday .
Needless to say it was quite interesting .
I have a second one next month, he gave me some paper work to fill out .
Not sure how this is going to work , but I have to say I am still strongly against medication as of now due to how it was handled when I was a kid and put on Ritalin .
Anytime you see a therapist and they want you to start take meds you should just walk out. They are not really helping, you're just another patient they don't want to spend time on. I think some of these problems kids are having start by looking at the parenting and the kid's temperament.
We live in a society of excess so any time a kid start whining or crying we shut them up by giving them something new or entice them with toys rather than interact with them. I know sometimes it can be difficult but kids all go through cycles where they just seem unresponsive to discipline or talking. Unfortunately a lot of parents work and just dump their kids off to daycare or having grandparents watch the kids and not really applying any discipline or coaching.
Kids must be properly coached or disciplined while they're young by parents or they'll develop the ADHD/ADD pattern of just inattentiveness and hyperactivity.
I would disagree with you 100% at the age of 32 and dealing with this from being a kid .....
The large misinformed issue of the past was the over dosing of kids .
But I will agree discipline is a large issue these days due to the simple fact of 2-3% of kids having ADHD and 3-5% of adults having it .
So thinking that your kid is ADHD , when in fact you just need to lay down a few laws is a large issue lately.
Last edited by Chilledman; 05-03-2012 at 02:58 PM.
You could hold him back a year. I wish a more parents would consider it. Kindergarten is mainly social, so no matter how smart your kid is, if he/she is a pain in the ass, the other kids see it/parents see it/ and most importantly - the teacher sees it and must deal with it.
There is an extremely smart child in my daughter's kinder class. Who needs a HUGE lesson on not being a little jackass. Of course, the parents are a VP and teacher at local schools.
Some friends of our sent their unprepared kid to kindergarten, instead of holding them back and it backfired on them, but they were in a hurry to get out of daycare.
Then some people are in no hurry to get their kids off to kindergarten.
We held our son back 1 year and it was a wise decision, he would have had major social issues the first year or two of school.
After what we went through with our older son, I have no problem keeping my younger son back until we feel he's ready. Both different personalities and different issues. I have a feeling that my younger son may surprise me. He's very stubborn and doesn't listen. He likes things on his term so it's a battle with him just to get him to obey rules. But, if he's motivated such as engaging in fun activities then he's easy to sway and follow orders.
When some parents talk about different child issues, some may ask right away if your kids been evaluated. My take is that unless I think my child has a serious mental issue that just doesn't seem right. I think as parents we're all jumping to conclusions too quickly as our expectations are too high often.
My bar is set too low then. I expect the girls to be polite, have some g.d. respect for their teachers and learn something. Luckily, both are very smart on their own and don't need me being a hardass - yet.
I praise the teachers every day for the patience they have. I volunteer every week and need a vodka tonic for lunch on those days.
I was held back due to age , not due to the ADHD , which I guess at that time wasn't bothering me? I guess after being held back my care for school went down hill fast , but with doing basically nothign in school I still managed B/C .
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back when i was growing up it wasnt called ADD OR ADHD it was called acting up and i got smacked in the side of the head and i got my $hit strait.If i did it again i got smacked again.Im not trying to be a dick or anything, but now adays fuc#ing doctors wanna put all these kids on pills because there add or adhd or what ever.Fuc# that give them a good a$$ whoopin and they will get back in line real quick.I HAVE KIDS 2 in fact my daughter is 20 and my son is 5.The doctor told me my daughter was ADD i told him hes a fuc#in idiot and left the his office.My daughter was just acting up and wanted attention.She turned out to be fine and was a 4.0 student threw high school and is a sophmore at UCLA.
And I still believe in nothing, Where we can forget the game
Nothing is sacred when no one is saved,Nothing's forever so count your days
Nothing is final and no one is real
Pray for tomorrow and find your empty still
Yeah, we all know the tough love and real world mentality and most of us probably agree. But, there is no discounting the fact that it might be a real issue and now that they are aware of it, are diagnosing it more. Maybe too much, but all because they are more aware.
It depends on severity. Most kids in general are just too comfy with home life and their room full of toys. When they get thrown into school environment all of a sudden they can't adapt to this huge change of pace and many kids just shutoff from interactions. I think it's perfectly normal as long as the kid returns to their normal self when they're back home or in familiar places. It takes time to groom the child to adapting outside life.
My son's current teacher admits that she was diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and she knows how to handle kids with the problem. She doesn't think my son has the problem, she's see kids today with just too much attention and affection.