Gift for Bride?

[Still Lost]

Posting in this section b/c I figure most in here are married and have gone through this, rather than posting in OT and getting useless responses.

My fiance and I are exchanging personal gift to each other the day of our wedding. I'm really at a loss of what to get her and am looking for some ideas/suggestions.

I want something that will last and that isn't a short-lived item ie shoes, clothing etc.

She told me she had looked into getting me a sculpture I really liked that we saw when we did out engagement shoot but it turned out to be 65k so needless to say I'm not getting that.

Budget is $1,000

[Papa Dras]

This is going to go one of two ways with opinions and I am going with the camp of ridiculousness. You are getting married already, buying rings, getting presents, spending $$$ on a wedding and all the parties leading up it, etc...yet you feel like you need to buy each other another personal gift?

Maybe I am old school, but I think that is about the dumbest idea I have heard of.

[Still Lost]

This is going to go one of two ways with opinions and I am going with the camp of ridiculousness. You are getting married already, buying rings, getting presents, spending $$$ on a wedding and all the parties leading up it, etc...yet you feel like you need to buy each other another personal gift?

Maybe I am old school, but I think that is about the dumbest idea I have heard of.

I don't disagree with your sentiment, that being said this is also a time for us to recognize each other, other than the rings and vows of course everything else being done that day is for the guests as a thank you.

This isn't a public exchange of gifts, something personal and thoughtful.

[Papa Dras]

Okay, but you are getting married. You are exchanging vows to cherish, protect, and support each other. Do you honestly think in a years time that you are going to care or even remember whatever that token thing is that you had to exchange for "personal and thoughtful" reasons? You do whatever, obviously- but I just think it is very silly and pointless.

Don't take this the wrong way, but are you really young? I only ask because, the need to overdo and express your love in material ways, comes across as a thing that a younger mind would need to do.

Who knows, maybe everyone will disagree with me and think it is sweet and appropriate. I'm just a married older dude with kids and life on my hands.

[Still Lost]

Not sure what your definition of young is but we are both close to 30.

I think it's just one of those things where we generally don't fawn over each other with materialistic things, we tend to focus on savings, careers, and our house and hopefully the purchase of our second house soon. So this is a bit of a departure from normal behavior which is why it's something maybe more special than just giving gifts for the hell of it.

I understand and respect your point of view but this is something we want to do for each other and I'm honestly lost, hence asking for advice.

Okay, but you are getting married. You are exchanging vows to cherish, protect, and support each other. Do you honestly think in a years time that you are going to care or even remember whatever that token thing is that you had to exchange for "personal and thoughtful" reasons? You do whatever, obviously- but I just think it is very silly and pointless.

Don't take this the wrong way, but are you really young? I only ask because, the need to overdo and express your love in material ways, comes across as a thing that a younger mind would need to do.

Who knows, maybe everyone will disagree with me and think it is sweet and appropriate. I'm just a married older dude with kids and life on my hands.

[Papa Dras]

Not sure what your definition of young is but we are both close to 30.

I think it's just one of those things where we generally don't fawn over each other with materialistic things, we tend to focus on savings, careers, and our house and hopefully the purchase of our second house soon. So this is a bit of a departure from normal behavior which is why it's something maybe more special than just giving gifts for the hell of it.

I understand and respect your point of view but this is something we want to do for each other and I'm honestly lost, hence asking for advice.

Ok, I am absolutely off base then. Sorry about that. Most people getting married do not have their lives set up as well as you do, so I made the assumption and I shouldn't have.

This being the case, I think it is fine idea.

[Still Lost]

Ok, I am absolutely off base then. Sorry about that. Most people getting married do not have their lives set up as well as you do, so I made the assumption and I shouldn't have.

This being the case, I think it is fine idea.

No worries at all, I'll admit I was at the point you described 7 years ago when I almost got engaged, and everything you said was a mirror image to my mentality then. I've grown up a lot since then and my fiance is mature beyond her years which has helped hahah.

[moose82]

What about a piece of art for your house? Or a really nice jewelry box? I'd want to get her something she would be able to have for a long time.

We didn't exchange gifts like this. "We" paid for a lot of the wedding ourselves. Between that, the honeymoon, her rings, etc., I was tight on disposable cash.

[Still Lost]

What about a piece of art for your house? Or a really nice jewelry box? I'd want to get her something she would be able to have for a long time.

We didn't exchange gifts like this. "We" paid for a lot of the wedding ourselves. Between that, the honeymoon, her rings, etc., I was tight on disposable cash.

Love the jewelry box idea!

We are paying for the majority of the wedding and honeymoon ourselves as well....things are tight for sure!

[MeineFolks'wagen]

This is going to go one of two ways with opinions and I am going with the camp of ridiculousness. You are getting married already, buying rings, getting presents, spending $$$ on a wedding and all the parties leading up it, etc...yet you feel like you need to buy each other another personal gift?

Maybe I am old school, but I think that is about the dumbest idea I have heard of.

THIS

[Spell Check Desk]

Okay, but you are getting married. You are exchanging vows to cherish, protect, and support each other. Do you honestly think in a years time that you are going to care or even remember whatever that token thing is that you had to exchange for "personal and thoughtful" reasons? You do whatever, obviously- but I just think it is very silly and pointless.

Oh, I assure you most women will.... especially the types who love that "Six Month Anniversary of Dating" cowpie.

[Hurt]

[jnm2.0t]

Okay, but you are getting married. You are exchanging vows to cherish, protect, and support each other. Do you honestly think in a years time that you are going to care or even remember whatever that token thing is that you had to exchange for "personal and thoughtful" reasons? You do whatever, obviously- but I just think it is very silly and pointless.

Is there room in your boat for one more?

[titleist1976]

OT in me: pearl necklace!

I don't think I bought my wife anything for a wedding day present. She bought me an Omega watch though, iirc, she felt bad about how much her engagement ring was. But not bad enough to say, "Let's return it for something more subtle/cheaper".

[Rockerchick]

We did small gifts. He got me a necklace to wear on our honeymoon. Not sure how much he paid, but I don't think it was all that much. We also didn't exchange gifts until we got to our room after the wedding. I think I spent around $100 for his gift.

I feel like $1k budget is a bit much, personally. Especially if you are paying for most things yourselves (we did that as well though we were 23, not 30).

[sakigt]

My husband bought me a set of pearl earings and a necklace. I wear them for special occasions. Im not a jewelry kind of girl but hes proud when I pull them out to wear.

[smittyATL]

I know what I'd get her.

[dunhamjr]

I don't disagree with your sentiment, that being said this is also a time for us to recognize each other, other than the rings and vows of course everything else being done that day is for the guests as a thank you.

This isn't a public exchange of gifts, something personal and thoughtful.

i agree with dras.

you are recognizing "US" with the whole day. everything about that day is about you two... and actually maybe more so her.

and if its supposed to be so personal, etc... why a budget of $1k? why a budget at all?

wouldn't a handmade gift or something cheap, odd, just 'her' be more personal/thoughtful then a shiny diamond bracelet?

[Roadkilled78]

I got my wife one of those nice silver ring/jewelry holders for our bedside table for our wedding rings. It's engraved with part of our vows. It cost less than $100. It made her happy.

Turns out we don't often remove our rings at night, but the gift is still a fixture on the table.

[RENOG]

Personally I will have to uphold Dras' initial comment, its pointless and doing way too much and thats why you are having such a hard time trying to figure what to do...The Ocean already have water in it dude...

Its cute in the Hollywood Rom-Coms but kinda stupid in real life.
Save the extra gift for your first anniversary.

[SpookyReverb]

wouldn't a handmade gift or something cheap, odd, just 'her' be more personal/thoughtful then a shiny diamond bracelet?

This is what I need up doing. I made a matching set of travel journals (to use on our honeymoon in Europe) with wood covers, canvas binding, and specially printed pages. It probably cost me $5, but my wife loved them. Doesn't mean she used it, though oh well...

[firefighterjunkie]

The gift exchange between the couples is pretty unnecessary, imo. Just more expense added to an already expensive day.

My husband gave me a book with a nice book mark that has a nice quote on it. I didn't buy my husband anything Oops. I had considered buying him a watch, but never found anything that he would have liked.

Save that $1k for your honeymoon or towards a big purchase or something.

[VILESTENCH]

draw a portrait of her on a napkin.

[Papa Dras]

the romance will never end