I lift through out the week, and base every meal and snack on my lifting goals, and also try to get significant hours of sleep. I like the lifestyle and it feels good. That simple. I don't really drink because I hate the hangovers and don't like to miss meals. I lifted through the last 4 years and got nothing out of it really, because I was partying my ass off and hardly eating. I should say actually I've been over the drinking for about 2 years now. Didn't have a problem stopping, I was just in it for the excitement anyway. Boats, bars, whatever was wild and crazy. Now a days if I even have a few drinks I don't even like the feeling and im not gonna condition my self back into it. No loss, it's the best thing for me.
I've been with this girl for like 2 years. Way cool. Way funny. Very beautiful. Down for doing fun things and trips whenever. BUT... She likes to get black out drunk with her girlfriends on the weekends. It's been a dilemma. I'm not frowning upon it, it's just. It my lifestyle anymore. She said it she doesn't want it to be hers either but she loves it.
Do I need to smack myself in the face and drop this ball and chain or just let her do her thing? She's totally responsible and crap through out the week, but I don't want my kids thinking that's cool, and I've gone out with my friends and ran into her in the past and she's always being trustworthy and with her friends but she's like destroyed. Like I'm not even attracted to her when she's like this. Reeks like cigs and kinda stumbles around. Am I just growing up a little bit before her and expecting her to mature at the same time? Or wtf?
I think you are getting towards the answer in your last sentence. You are maturing, and she isn't at your level either because she just... isn't, or because she refuses to do be.
I would drop her like a rock. Nothing good becomes of a lifestyle such as that. I don't even know the last time I was drunk, but I drink all the time. Dinner, post dinner, go to the bar, and stuff like that. However, I don't ever get anywhere near drunk because I just don't see a reason for it. I'm not in high school anymore.
Sounds like she wants to stay at the Jersey Shore, and your ready to move to the upper east side. You'll meet new people when you move, and won't look back. You know what you gotta do.
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I'm about to be 29 and I drink like CRAZY! I black out drunk all the time. Drinking and partying doesn't make you immature. What matters is how you balance it out.
During the week I'm a full time student, have high paying job, and I just opened my own business.
You may not like her lifestyle, if you can't live with it, then you can't. My girlfriend tells me all the time she is sick of drinking, but Saturday nights she's always ready to go out. The problem is not the partying, its her lack of motivation on the weekdays that slows her down.