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http://mit.edu/dennis/www/vw/switch.html
Fuse 36 gives power to pin 2(xr) in the headlight switch...which powers pin 8(NL) which switches the fog light relay(needs to be added)
So...there is not only a fuse for the fog light switch (pre wired by VW) but there will also be a fuse for the POWER wire to the relay
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