While I appreciate your obvious frustration, have you contacted the company you purchased them from or Solo Werks themselves for advice on how to fix your issues?
As you have stated, this is your first set of coilovers - could you have missed something during installation, or are you out of the coilovers working range?
If you have purchased these from AMI or not, we are happy to help you diagnose and fix the issues you are describing.
Out of the few hundred sets we have sold of the Solo's you would be the first to complain that they are too aggressive.
To start, if you would please post up your height measurements as in the image below, and we can start the diagnosis:
Glen @ AMI