Yikes. Best you can do is be the bigger person
Yikes. Best you can do is be the bigger person
2018 Golf R - mine, mine, all mine.
2017 Golf Alltrack SEL+Tech - Son #1. In a galaxy far, far away
2014 Dodge Durango Limited AWD - Wife's
2004 Acura TSX - Son #2. The sax-mobile
1967 Chevrolet Corvette - I promise to get this car back on the road in 2018....
Some people become irrational under extreme pressure and many people refuse to give up no matter how bad life's circumstances become.
I choose to be one of the later and not the former.
FWIW, as I have documented in this thread and elsewhere, I have almost made the same decision more times than I can count on both hands but I have somehow got through the problems. Quite frankly, I'm glad for every day that I'm alive because I've come far to close to suicide more times than I can count.
Please don't judge your buddy because he might have inner turmoil beyond anything you or anyone can imagine.
I'm sort of spilling my guts out and really have not apprehension in doing such.
PM me if anyone needs further clarification, it's always an open door in my wheelhouse.
Last edited by Just another GTI; 05-13-2019 at 10:50 PM.
well gawd damn, might hafta take a trip to Taco Bell sometime soon.
The before looked really good in a lumberjack kinda way.
The after looks really good in a 'life can throw sh*t at me and I can take it head on with style' kinda way.
Either way, both look damn swell
Seems that Depression and bipolar disorders are becoming more and more common these days.
That or maybe were only now starting to diagnose and recognize them as issues more often.
I have suffered from insomnia and depression for decades, have self medicated, and will be moving sooner than later to try to find what works for me. Current things withstanding, it is horrible to go through life being miserable.
And I've been miserable most of my adult life (3+ decades) and self medicating has been little relief.
Some how, some day I will find my answer. Much the professional crayon master member, there has to be an answer to the problems.
In the past couple years my whole perspective on self and life in general has changed. Now I'm questioning just about everything.
I'm not sure if it's good or bad but I must find what works, for now.
He was always a bit self-destructive and obsessive about things... especially upon getting to college. Honestly, in hindsight his bi-polar diagnosis isn't surprising. Going back and playing ****ed up occurrences through my mind fifteen and twenty years after the fact has really been screwing with me. I'm wondering how our group of friends weren't able to intervene sooner.
My bestfriend was the only one that was actually able to keep up with the guy over the last few years. He had a very difficult time staying up with his meds. When he was off them it was really bad. His wife eventually had to remove herself (and the 2x kids) from the situation. Even after getting divorced she still did a lot for him. Dude would go on benders, disappear for days on end, go to a casino 48hrs straight, make crazy phonecalls to friends and family, etc.
He'd actually been down in NM for the last few months after a really bad episode last fall. I guess he'd been doing well but just snapped the other day. He Facebook live videoed himself to his ex taking the goddamn escalator up to the sixth floor.
Mental health issues are a real bastard.
The only job he's ever had for more than a week were from his father: 1 at my FIL's service station, until he got fired, and 1 at my FIL's current employer after my FIL got him a job there. He's 37, lives at home, spends all of his money on cigarettes and malt liquor and is incredibly resentful of my wife. We've offered to take in the 3rd child that he's solely responsible for (since her mom just recently got out of jail for trying to sell our niece to a pedophile for drug money) while he cleans up his act and get's his own apartment, but he refuses. He flat out tells his daughter she can't come stay with us since we're rich and fancy and he tell his daughter she'll never be. Oh, and he's so fricken lazy, he doesn't have her birth certificate, SSN, etc, so the one time he filed taxes claiming his 3rd child, they audited him, and rather than do the work, he ignored the IRS and is now having his wages garnished. Oh, and he also stopped filing taxes after that. Our niece's mother wants rights back, so she brought my BIL to family court. She likes to talk about how she sobered up in jail and found Jesus, and just wants to be a good mother (she has 3 other children with another man that she has no contact with). I'm pretty sure that she just wants all of the extra support that comes with being a single parent. My BIL didn't like what the judge was saying, so he just turned as the judge was talking and walked out of court and disappeared in the woods for a few days where he got totally wasted. Luckily, the mother of our niece is totally inept too, so she hasn't gotten her daughter back. We've haven't called child services, because by default, the mother would get first rights to the child, and we would rather have her close where we can help as much as we can. And my BIL's exwife helps a ton too with this girl, the half sister to her 2 children. She has the girl 3-4 nights a week, and my BIL has never offered her monetary support for.
He balks at how much we spent on rent when we moved to WA, our house, our cars, and how much we travel. He has no concept of responsibility, credit, savings, or personal responsibility. When we pointed out that our car payments for both of our cars combined was less than he spends a month on cigarettes and malt liquor, he starred blankly at us trying to comprehend what we said, but it never registered.
My FIL is trying to sell his house, so my BIL stopped talking to him and refuses to move out or find an apt. My FIL is going to have to evict his 37 year old son from his house. The one thing my BIL did in preparation, was talk to his ex wife about our niece moving in with her, even though our offer to take care of her still stands.
There is so much more to this story, but I find it frustrating and exhausting to put it into words. He might be the most frustrating person I've ever encountered.
TLNR: My brother in-law is a total bum too, add in a good dose of substance abuse and child neglect.
G-damn, I'm tired this morning.
Ran across some blue cheese crumbles tubs for half price yesterday when shopping for office lunch stuff.
But then what?
This morning I tried blue cheese bagels.
Toast bagels, add some butter.. then cover in blue cheese crumbles.
Nuke for another 18 seconds until starting to melt.. smooth.
Actually.. it works.
I am surprised.
Almost 20 years ago, I was in a really, really bad place with depression and anxiety, needed a medical leave from work, did the therapy/medication merry-go-round for a few years. It sucked, but I did it, learned a lot about myself and how to handle things. No meds or therapy for 15 years or so now, but I can tell you I still wake up in the night, or in the morning, and it's something you still have to struggle with every day. Every. Damn. Day.
The hardest part for most people is putting in the work to trying to figure it out. You have to put in the work, and keep putting in the work. I'm very, very fortunate that I have a better half that wouldn't let me NOT put the work in.
When people get in a place like what your buddy was in, it's really hard to bring them back from the edge.
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