Gearing: we were told that 3.21s would be too anemic accelerating and climbing hills, which is fairly important as we tow west four or five times a year. Climbing the mountains in western Maryland is so easy with these gears. The middle option is 3.55 but those are impossible to find.
Dealer: it was Keene in Jarrettsville MD. I don't hold any of this hood snafu against the dealer itself. They barely saw the truck themselves before sending it to prep so the missing Sport hood would be easy to overlook. Our salesman was very good, even with the call to tell me that the truck wasn't actually on the lot. We got to a bottom line price number that I was happy with very quickly and drama-free. I'd buy there again, but I probably will wait till the truck is actually physically on the grounds before signing on the dotted line next time.