Joking aside, it looks like both the dealer and VWoA are taking efforts to rectify this situation. You will most likely need to wait for the new ECU since it's still too early to lemon it. From my observations on the forums, it looks like the 19s seem to have more issues than the 18s even though they are the same car. Your situation definitely sucks and it does sour the experience. Hopefully this will get sorted out soon and then you can really appreciate what this car can do. In the meantime, is the dealer willing to give you a loaner? Either while you are waiting for the ECU or the buyback period? Or both?